Post # 1
Hey bees, need to release here. As our wedding date approaches, so does his deployment date.
We’ve been through one before, it was short and not to the area he is going to now. I’m a master at staying busy. I’m in school, working, volunteering, but my dread is growing. I have an icky feeling about this deployment. It’s almost like things are too good and I’m waiting for the rug to be ripped out from me.
More than likely, he and I will be fine. I’m just a fully functioning scaredy cat at the moment and sad.
Post # 2
mshoneybeespgbuzz: I know you mainly just want to vent but, I want to say I’ve been there and know it’s tough. Sounds like you are on the right track, staying busy. Of course there is support from others all over the place, but nothing can really ease your feelings other than to have him return safely, I know. But I also know that just sitting and worrying not only makes it worse but will drive you crazy. Keep going like you’re going and you’ll come through it just fine
Post # 3
Sorry to hear bee. I have never been through this, closest is a long distance relationship and a lot of travelling. Can imagine it must be really hard. Definitely think keeping busy is best! And yes, I am sure you will be just fine.
Post # 4
I know how you feel bee, we’ve just come through the other side and he’s home now 😊 The build up is the worst. by the time he was actually going I just couldn’t wait for him to go so the anxiety of waiting for him to go would be over and I could get on with waiting for him to come back 🙈 Now I’m just waiting for that proposal. You guys will be fine, deployment sucks, but you get a lot done 🙈 Keeping busy and make loads of quality you time. After my initial sulky week after he went I made it a really positive experience by being extremely self spoiling and writing loads of soppy love letters. It seems to last forever, but once it’s over it’ll seem like a drop in the ocean. Stay strong 😊
Post # 5
Preach, sister ‘bee! We’re gearing up for another one as well. Staying busy and having a job or something to keep you busy helps. It also helps me to have a support group of other spouses. I rarely if ever need them, but when I do, they are there. I have a few groups online and they are terrific people! Most of my social group, friends, and family are civilians and they do a lot of things during deployments that add unnecessary stress; asking me if I’ve seen the news, asking when will I get to talk to him, etc. None of which helps, but the support groups do! It’s nice to have someone just say “Yes it’s hard! Here’s your 10min to have a pity party, we’ll join you, but then it’s time to get back up.” Deployments, for me anyways, are for learning how to be empathetic and allowing myself to feel all the emotions along with balancing positivity and staying productive. It’s hard, but we always try to look at time apart as a time to grow. Those icky feelings are horrible though. I’m sorry, ‘bee. Best way to work out the icky feelings is just distract yourself and talk to your partner about it. Let he or she reassure you that all will be good. And find a good support group! Even if it’s just online or Facebook or something. Good luck! I’m here if you need me 😊
Post # 6
Stay busy! The world is a very scary place (I don’t need news 24/7… I’ll teleport back to the ’40s for a bit). I can’t watch the news as my fiance is a LEO and an Army Officer. I would never sleep if I even paid close attention. I’ve been through deployments with past SO’s, so I understand. Stay busy, talk to us as needed! I always started planning out care packages and sending those with letters, as it really kept me positive and knowing there is a light at the end of the tunnel.