Post # 1
This is my first and probably last post I just need help ladies. My bf of 4 years has yet to propose. I’m 21 soon to be 22. Just got approved to buy a house by myself So now is a great time in our lives. He’s 26 and will not actively pursue a career. He’s waiting around on seasonal work that has better hourly pay than stable work with a pay cut. No convincing him. I’m upset. He bought me lingerie for Christmas. I asked for it Because I’m a fan of it anywho i Went to put it on last night around 1130; put makeup on and did my hair the whole nine yards, came out at 12 exact and he was asleep!!!!!! Did not wak. He never even looked at me and all he did was mumble that i took too long putting makeup on and it was too much. So I’m hurt on top of that last New Years we came to understanding to be engaged this year As in 2015. It did not happen Well all of our friends our but us. Financially is not an issue, we already have the ring I want. It was Inherited. I’m at loss. I love him but someone please tell me I did the right thing by dumping him? There are so many details over 4 years but that’s the main Recent details is I feel like he’s wasting my time.
Post # 2
You move on. You’re 21. He is lazy and obviously not what you’re looking for if after 4 years you are talking like this on the internet. He is definitely wasting your time. I promise you there is so much more out there to see with a fresh perspective. It’ll be an adult relationship, not the high school one that lasted too long. Brush yourself off, take a minute to grieve, then get back out there and have fun!
Post # 3
Oh girl, you DEFINITELY did the right thing. Keep pressing forward — don’t look back!
Post # 4
Yes, but not because it’s been 4 years (you are only 21. And why is a 22yo dating a 17yo. There is a reason for that and it’s not because you are so amazing. He’s just that immature). Or that he fell asleep while you were getting all dolled up.
You made a good decision dumping him, because you are moving forward in your life and he isn’t. I bet you he is in the same place as he was when you started dating him. If you stayed with him, you would have been unhappy and disappointed that you always had to be the adult.
Go be single for awhile. Have fun, do some traveling, find out who the adult woman you are becoming really is without the influence of a deadbeat boyfriend.
Post # 5
Sounds like you guys are on two different wavelengths maturity-wise. You’re smart to move on.
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2016 - Loveless Barn
If you just broke up with him and are sharing your complaints about him and asking for confirmation that you did the right thing instead of crying your eyes out, you TOTALLY did the right thing. Good for you for recognizing what you want (and don’t want). 🙂
Post # 7
You have a lot going for you and you had the engagement discussion with him a year ago and nothing happened? On top of the job issue, you being approved to buy a house, etc. You’re young and will be fine. I think you made the right decision. Time will tell whether or not you feel it was the right decision but something is telling me you will be much happier in the long run. There are plenty of men out there that will give you what you are looking for. Your ex SO sounds as though he did not have any ambition.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
You made the right choice!