(Closed) Pre engaged state advice!!! I dumped him now what

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Did I make the right choice.



  • Post # 2
    602 posts
    Busy bee

    You move on. You’re 21. He is lazy and obviously not what you’re looking for if after 4 years you are talking like this on the internet. He is definitely wasting your time. I promise you there is so much more out there to see with a fresh perspective. It’ll be an adult relationship, not the high school one that lasted too long. Brush yourself off, take a minute to grieve, then get back out there and have fun!

    Post # 3
    4229 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Oh girl, you DEFINITELY did the right thing.  Keep pressing forward — don’t look back!

    Post # 4
    5891 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Yes, but not because it’s been 4 years (you are only 21. And why is a 22yo dating a 17yo. There is a reason for that and it’s not because you are so  amazing. He’s just that immature). Or that he fell asleep while you were getting all dolled up. 

    You made a good decision dumping him, because you are moving forward in your life and he isn’t. I bet you he is in the same place as he was when you started dating him. If you stayed with him, you would have been unhappy and disappointed that you always had to be the adult. 

    Go be single for awhile. Have fun, do some traveling, find out who the adult woman you are becoming really is without the influence of a deadbeat boyfriend. 

    Post # 5
    302 posts
    Helper bee

    Sounds like you guys are on two different wavelengths maturity-wise. You’re smart to move on.

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 5 months ago by herbanlove.
    Post # 6
    387 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Loveless Barn

    If you just broke up with him and are sharing your complaints about him and asking for confirmation that you did the right thing instead of crying your eyes out, you TOTALLY did the right thing. Good for you for recognizing what you want (and don’t want). 🙂

    Post # 7
    28 posts

    You have a lot going for you and you had the engagement discussion with him a year ago and nothing happened?  On top of the job issue, you being approved to buy a house, etc.  You’re young and will be fine.  I think you made the right decision. Time will tell whether or not you feel it was the right decision but something is telling me you will be much happier in the long run.  There are plenty of men out there that will give you what you are looking for.  Your ex SO sounds as though he did not have any ambition.

    Good luck!

    Post # 8
    4225 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

    You made the right choice!

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