(Closed) Pre-Engagement did you tell him what kind of ring you wanted? Or did he ask?

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Pre-Engagement, did you tell him what kind of ring you wanted? Or did he ask?

    i dropped subtle hints on my own, he did not ask. (please explain below)

    I took a risk and emailed him links and pictures, on my own. (how did he react?)

    He asked me to email him with ideas. I gladly accepted.

    He took me shopping for a ring, his idea.

    We went ring shopping together, I somewhat talked him into it.

    None of the above...he surprised me with a ring.

    Other.....describe below.

  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My bf gauged my reactions talking about how his coworkers went about picking out their rings for their SOs.  And then, he said, “I just got an email from Amason deals for a diamond necklace.  I don’t know who’d buy a diamond necklace with SI clarity! So…what shape diamond and setting do you like?”   All I said was, “Ask my sister.  Round, bezel.”  lol   I could have taken the bull by the horns and told him specifics but I’ve always felt that he would like to surprise me and my sister knows exactly what I’d like.  

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We knew early on it was the real deal, one day last year we just randomly popped into a jewelry store b/c we were waiting on tables at a restraunt or something. Then we planned outings a time or two more, until I found the one. From there, he had it custom made to fix my likes and his wallet πŸ˜‰

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We had been talking about getting married.. so he surprised me with a “hot date” we went to a nice lunch and then to two jewelry stores to look at engagement rings. He had set appointments and had the whole day planned πŸ™‚

    Post # 21
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    Newbee

    My fiance asked what kind of rings I liked at my cousin’s engagement party, and since everyone was talking about rings it went right over my head. He surprized me about 3 months later with a ring exactly like what I described.

    But I feel like if he said a proposal was coming you shouldn’t get shy about what you like. I would say discuss it, figure out the styles you like together!

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @leilabee: I want to see the ring you’re talking about!

     

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Well, my personal story is that Fiance proposed with a “fake” ring and told me to go pick one out. I actually went ring shopping with my mom, haha. Then he came, looked at it, and bought it.

    But I’m a HUGE proponent of being open and honest about this process. Bring it up to him, ask what he wants. If he says he doesn’t want your input, he wants it to be a complete surprise, then accept that. If he says he wouldn’t mind you emailing him some ideas, do that. I’ve always been of the opinion that if he’s serious about prosing, mentioning that you have a certain taste in rings isn’t going to scare him off, if you only do it once and don’t do it all the time.

    It sounds like you really like this ring, so honestly, I would just start the conversation that way- something like, “I know a proposal could be a ways off/soon/whatever you want to say, and I found a ring I absolutely love and I want you to see it.” Just go from there.

    Post # 25
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @leilabee: hehe! no worries! I’ll keep an eye out for your proposal story πŸ™‚

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We had been talking for months about getting engaged. He took me ring shopping (his choice) and we found one that we loved! Soon after he went to buy it and the dang thing went up in price by $1000, and that was just for the setting! A few weeks later we went to a jeweler and had my ring custom made. It is very different from what I thought I wanted but I love it and so does he!

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @leilabee: I show my ring all the time. I dont think of anyone as competition but friends who are excited to share each other’s stories and pictures. I love seeing everyone else’s style!

    Post # 28
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    Honey bee

    I told him – and he picked something COMPLETELY different.  Sheesh!  (and I love it!) πŸ™‚

    Post # 29
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    My husband asked me without a ring so we could pick one together.

    Post # 30
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    Newbee

    We’ve talked about generalities, I know he looks at rings all the time.  We both agreed that the non-traditional route was probably best, though aren’t ruling out diamonds.  

    We also started emailing bands about 5 months ago, not any definites but ideas we liked.  

    Frankly, I don’t need a ring.  I love sparkle, but it’s not the most important thing to me.  Though, if he wants to, I’m good with that too.  

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