(Closed) Pre-engagement/ Promise Ring

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 93
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My SO gave me a promise ring 2 Christmases ago after my pressuring him and he had no idea what it was. It was dumb on my part. The ring wasn’t my taste at all, and the metal gives me a rash every time I wear it, so I don’t anymore. If anything it made me crazy because I was afraid he’d pick an e-ring I’d hate. Now Im not as picky… All I ask is a metal that doesn’t give me a rash. 

As for other ppl with SO’s who elect to buy promise rings, I think it’s nice. A placeholder until you’re both really ready to commit to the idea of marriage. I understood it as a promise to get engaged. I wore mine on both hands, depending on how lovesick I was feeling. If I really needed to feel loved I wore it on the left. If I felt fine I wore it on the right. Towards the end of me wearing it I wore it on my necklace next to my pendant. Then I decided nobody overshadowed Tiffany’s & Co. and put the ring away in my jewelry box. SO didn’t argue.

Post # 94
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

been dating SO for 3.5 years. He gave this to me one month before our 1 year dating-anniversary 

Post # 95
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224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My boyfriend surprised me with a promise ring on our first anniversary.  We had been best friends for over 3 years before we started dating.  On our first anniversary, he took me to all our special places and then gave me the ring in the same spot where he asked me out.  Now before this happened, I had never thought about promise rings.  I was kind of confused as to what they were for and didn’t know why people wore them.  Fortunately, he knew exactly what he wanted this ring to symbolize.  To us, my ring doesn’t symbolize a promise to eventually get married (although sometimes I “mistakenly” say it is)  but instead, a promise to love one another unconditionally forever.  We promised that we would always trust eachother and share our favorite moments with one another.

The other thing that I was ABSOLUTELY confused about, was which finger do I put it on?  We decided that it would be best on my left middle finger (mostly because that’s the finger it fits best on).  But we also chose that finger because we thought we wanted to “save my ring finger” for the future.

It’s now been 2 years since I started wearing the ring.  We have talked about what we’re going to do with it once we do get engaged.  He actually suggested putting the diamonds (15) into a wedding band, along with the diamonds from my great grandmother.  What is everyone thinking about doing with their promise ring once you’re engaged?

Sorry for the large picture.

Post # 96
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Bumble bee

@afenimore11:  I’m deciding between wearing it on my right hand once we are engaged and using it as a stand-in when we go travelling or hiking.

I wear mine on my left ring finger, but it looks nothing like an engagement ring (it’s a claddagh). I would feel weird wearing an engagement-looking ring on that finger without being engaged. 

Post # 96
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Blushing bee

We had silver rings (like simple weddingband type) for about 2 years before we got engaged. But even before all that he had given me 2 goldrings to wear sadly one broke and the other I put away when be both got matching bands.

Post # 96
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Blushing bee

I got this ring on our first dating anniversary but, and I quote, “It’s NOT A PROMISE RING. I PROMISE YOU NOTHING. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY.”

He’s a dork.

He flips out if I even jokingly threaten to put it on my left hand. My left hand is for my ENGAGEMENT RING, which I do not own, he has not bought, and he will not buy for a while. *eye roll* I’m getting one eventually, we’re just so not financially there yet. So I guess this is technically a pre-engagement ring, given that I recieved it pre-engagement. But don’t call it that! It sounds too much like a promise ring. Which it is NOT. A promise ring, that is. Totally not a promise in any way.

Did I mention he’s a dork?

Post # 97
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Busy bee

Can’t really see it well in this pic. But bf gave me a promise ring just before our 1 year Anni as a Christmas present. I was in second year university and we decided that we did want to get married but not until I finished school. So until then he wanted to get me a ring that symbolizes that one day we will be engaged/married…just not at the moment (it would havebeen if it wasn’t for school). I wear it on my right because in my culture, wearing it on the left is apparently bad luck LOL 

Post # 98
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2016

i got my promise ring on our 2 year anniversary! We’re now almost at our 3 year anniversary and I’m waiting on a new ring! Haha

Post # 99
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Soon2bBB:  Here’s our ‘pre-engagement rings’ We both want to get married, we just want to graduate college first, and we want to make sure we aren’t rushing into anything since we’re both 20 🙂

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Post # 100
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Worker bee

SO got me one just before our 1 year anniversary. We’d gone through a rough patch with his family. We use it to symbolize our committment with each other and to promise that we won’t give up on each other when things get tough. It’s an opal, which is his birthstone.

I wear it on my right hand, always have, always will.

 

Post # 101
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Buzzing bee

This is my promise ring, SO gave it to me for our 6 month anniversary.

Post # 102
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I got my ring for Christmas 2015. After almost 3 years of dating. He also bought a necklace to match. Once he ask I will put it on my right ring finger. All my co workers and friends just say I am engaged. Which is odd. But having the ring doesn’t make it seem so weird when we have gone to bridal shows and looked at venues and caters. I love this ring. 

 

Post # 103
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Wannabee

My boyfriend and I used to date back in July but we broke up a few days later because people came in between us, after about 5-6months we started dating again, last month we had our 6months anniversary and he gave me a promise ring, sometimes we do talk about marriage and about our future, the ring that he gave represents to be faithful to one another, to stay loyal, to love each other no matter what, and also for commitment. I wear the ring on my right hand in the middle finger. And the ring is called ‘My Princess’ from Pandora 😊

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 4 months ago by manolita.
Post # 104
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Blushing bee

I thought only people under 20 did promise rings 

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