Post # 1
When we think of catered weddings, 9 times out of 10 the menu options are much more upscale food items than one would normally eat at home. Prime rib, fancy hors d’ouvres, cocktails, etc… We strive to make it a classy affair that stands out from other meals so that our guests will have a memorable dining experience.
So why is the “children’s option” always the same old crap that they eat at home? Chicken fingers for dinner last night, chicken fingers for dinner at the wedding (while mom and dad eat like royalty) and chicken fingers for dinner tomorrow. I use chicken fingers as an example because I’ve never been to a wedding where the children’s option was something other than chicken fingers. Granted, I don’t expect young children to eat a full serving of steak or be eager to sample a scallop. However when it comes to catered dining children are really, REALLY treated like second class citizens.
Would you have a menu that only had chicken fingers as an option to your adult guests? A larger portion of chicken fingers, of course, but chicken fingers and ONLY chicken fingers nonetheless.
I am not suggesting that it is wrong to have the classic Chicken Fingers Children’s Option on your wedding menu. I have no children of my own and therefore have no reason to be offended by it. It was just something I was pondering.
Post # 3
Sometimes kids tend to be picky, and chicken is safe for most kids.
But, at the same time, I don’t think it’s a huge deal if the child wants to eat the “adult” food.
That being said, we’re doing a buffet – we aren’t offering “kids meals”, but the kids are welcome to eat anything they like just as our adult guests.
This includes social hour.
Post # 4
@Aquaria: Most kids are really picky eaters. I grew up in a family where we had to eat what the adults ate, no exceptions. Nowadays, I know of plenty of kids who only eat buttered noodles for dinner. It really depends on the kid, and it’s usually easiest to just serve one option that pleases all of them. Kids make up a small percentage of guests anyway, so it usually doesn’t make sense to have multiple options for a table of five to ten kids when your guest list is over a hundred.
Post # 5
We eat well at home (nice roasts, steaks,salmon,sushi, etc) on a regular basis, and so does our son. He doesn’t eat (maybe a couple times a year) chicken fingers, fries, and all that. He eats the same as us, just smaller portions.
He wouldn’t be happy if he had to eat something like chicken fingers at a wedding, and we got to eat the real food.. He’d be like “how come I can’t have that?” of course he would only say it to us and not the hosts, but still… He’d notice.
My point is, IMO if you’re going to offer a children’s option, it should be real food, not processed crap.
Post # 6
I think people planning a wedding have the right to try to cut costs when possible. If you are a parent who is offended that your child won’t be offered the same gourmet food as you might be offered, leave them with a babysitter for the night, or choose not to go to the wedding if it’s really that offensive to you. One night of chicken fingers etc. isn’t going to kill anyone. Most people don’t plan their weddings to cater to children.
Post # 7
@FortiesFlare: If it’s really such a problem and you don’t want to teach your child to be flexible, switch food with him. It’s not up to the marrying couple to cater to your child’s preferences.
Post # 8
@FortiesFlare: I completely agree. The only time I ate “kid food” was at a friend’s house or with my cousins. We always had nice food at home and that’s what I ate. I firmly believe that picky eaters are trained, not born. My Fiance is a terribly picky eater, something it’s taking me years and lots of coaxing to slowly change, but my feeling is that if he ate the same food his parents ate while growing up it wouldn’t be an issue now that he’s an adult. Yes, we all have some foods that just don’t appeal to us (why would someone put rice in perfectly good pudding?) but I don’t understand people with such limited palates.
Post # 9
@Cory_loves_this_girl: My child is flexible. I never said he wasn’t, of course he would eat it, and of course I would share mine with him.
What I said is that he would notice, and he wouldn’t be happy about the fact that he was getting “less good” food then his parents.
Post # 10
This is how our house is as well. I’m a total foodie and love to try new foods and cook and whatnot, and our girls just eat what we eat, just less of it.
However, I’m not going to throw a fit at a wedding if the children’s options are typical children’s options. We’d just share our food with the girls if they weren’t into the chicken tenders. No sweat.
Post # 11
@Cory_loves_this_girl: One night of chicken fingers etc. isn’t going to kill anyone.
+1. Seriously, someone could serve ME chicken fingers (or anything, really) at a wedding and I would be fine.
Post # 12
I agree with some of your points, certainly won’t make chicken fingers a staple in my home, andthink many kids will eat lots of other things. I am also serving homemade chicken fingers and fries (not frozen or processed). In talking to our cooridinator, she said that most weddings where they do adult food for kids it doesn’t go well. The kids don’t eat it, are hungry, get cranky, and cause the parents to have to leave early. I think it would be hreat for kids to eat mini grown up meals, but I don’t want fights over having to eat their veggies at my wedding. For their parents sake, I am keeping traditional kid food.
Post # 13
Kids are picky and most of them like chicken fingers. I can’t think of a single “formal food” as universally appealing to kids as chicken fingers. You want all your guests to enjoy their dinner, and it seems like the safest bet. Besides, kids are hardly even going to remember that wedding tomorrow no matter what you feed them, so fancy food is kind of wasted on them.
If I were even having young kids at my wedding, and someone *REALLY* wanted their kid to get adult food, whatever, it’s their kid, their business, but I’d definitely be encouraging the kids meal.
@Pollywog: Basically this.
Post # 14
We aren’t having children at our wedding, but the children’s option is grilled chicken breast, broccoli and mac & cheese. Basic, but still kid friendly.
At my venue, our bar cost is based on the number of adult meals ordered. I have read in previous posts about parents “demanding” (I know that word is too strong, but y’all get my drift) that their children get an adult entree. As a host, I would be quite perturbed about a parent wanting me to pay about an extra hundred dollars because their child didn’t want the children’s entree.
Post # 15
Just thought of a spinoff: at what age does the children’s option no longer apply? Would you refuse to pay for an adult meal for a child over the age of (__)?
Post # 16
@jenilynevette: +1 we made it very clear that kids should feel free to choose the “adult” option but most of them are picky. We even had a few comments from parents about how happy their kids were that chicken tenders were an option.