Post # 1
Hello Bees! Fiance and I just started our pre-marital counseling this morning. Today was basically just filling out some paperwork, and discussing our wedding day. She said we will really start getting into details at our next session. I am a little nervous! She told us today that if anything ever comes up that she doesn’t like, she has the right to deny our marriage. Scary!
So what should I expect throughout this counseling? Do they usually ask about intimacy? Fiance and I have had sex before, and I’d be nervous to tell her!
Today we had to fill out a “Are you combatible for each other?” quiz.. and she’s going to “grade them” and go over our score with us next time. Ah.
Post # 4
If she denies you marriage for any reason whatsoever, you should go somewhere else!
Our pre-marital counseling was really great. We loved it. My pastor had us do the Prepare/Enrich questionnaire online and then when he got the results he went over them with us. It was about compatibility and communication, and nothing else. Just a chance to talk about how our different family dynamics might create gaps in our communication and ways we might work through that. A good experience all around.
I don’t think anyone has the right to ask you about intimacy, no matter who they are.
Post # 5
No way! This is not the 50’s. The only time I’ve ever heard of that being a problem is with catholic or maybe southern baptist. Our church is letting us choose whether to do premarital counseling with them or someone else, but surely they cant REFUSE to marry you if you’d had sex! IF they do, go somewhere else! You should feel comfortable with your officiant.
Post # 6
What good is it to go through the pre-marital counselling if you are afraid to be honest? I would go somewhere else RIGHT NOW!