(Closed) Pre-Marital Counseling

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ours is this weekend. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

We had to go because we were getting married in the Cathollic church. We wouldn’t have bothered otherwise, probably, but I’m so glad we did.

You think you know your Fiance a lot and have a very open relationship, but having someone else there really helps you to open up sometimes.

Make sure you discuss the biggies… money, and future plans (ie, what would happen if…). A good counsellor will also discuss conflict resolution with you, and will make you reflect on why your previous relationships (if applicable) did not work out, so that you can learn from your mistakes.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We did, for about six sessions. My Darling Husband is a pastor and also requires that all of the couples whose weddings he officiates attend premarital counseling.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’ve only had one session (4 more to go) and it was great! The topic was on Communication. My fiance and I believe we don’t have any issues with anything at this moment in time, but thought it would still be good to attend pre-marital counselling seeing as we want to be “prepared” when we actually do tie the knot. We thought it shouldn’t hurt… If we don’t learn anything, at least we went through the “counselling” experience together (because things are always more fun when we’re doing it together hehe).
So throughout the session, we were to do some activites about how we express ourselves verbally to each other, how our family background affected our communication now, any issues with communication in general and how to possibly work through it together etc. We actually learnt that our communication skills were great :p
Like I said I’ve only been to one session, so I really don’t have much to base it on, but I would recommend it to any couple thinking of getting married ๐Ÿ™‚ It really does get you talking and can help you get through your problems as a couple. It also makes you realise how much you need to put in to have a successful life-long marriage ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

we are going, and i must say i found it was quite fun.

we took personality tests and it was good fun, it was also quite serious at times and we have a book that we read and disccuss on our next session.

i think its good for us so i recomend u go 4 it

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

We went and our relationship has been awesome since the beginning. We had to complete 3 sessions, but we did all 5. Once we got started we found it fun and a great way to communicate. We got some things out in the open that a neutral 3rd party was able to mediate.

If I were you I would go, even if your relationship is fine.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@CaliBeeBride0813:  We are not getting married in a church so it’s not something we’re required/”encouraged” to do, but I’m still tossing around the idea.

 

My Boyfriend or Best Friend isnt a big talker and he has a strict policy of not talking to other people about “our business”, not to family, friends, or anyone else. Because of that, I dont see him saying a word. 

 

While I don’t think it’s something we need currently, I’m thinking about asking him if he’d like to just for fun, maybe he’d see it as like a team-building exercise ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It always helps.  FI and i had some relationship counselling while i was going through a depression right after we got engaged (good timing, i know),

We communicate so much better now. And i read 5 Love Languages and that has helped us HUGE amounts too. I make his lunch every day, and he takes me on a date night once a week. ๐Ÿ™‚ He is Acts of Service and i’m Quality Time lol. 

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