Post # 1
Hey girls! So we are starting our pre-marital counseling in a couple weeks, which we’d always planned to do, but lately I’m getting a little anxious about it. Not because I’m worried about FI and I’s relationship (we’re solid lol), but because I just feel as though there are certain relationship things that should stay between my FI, myself and God. And no one else. lol. Though I know awkward things are going to come up, I’m not so sure how to go about discussing them. We’re private people after all lol. What were your experiences with it if you did it?
Post # 3
I think you just have to be honest and open. You sort of get out of counseling what you put in. I understand not wanting to air your dirty laundry so to speak, but if you leave certain things out, you won’t get the full benefit.
Just don’t feel embarassed in front of the counselor. I am sure he/she has heard it all and then some!
Post # 4
Depends on your definition of awkwardness & your level of emotional privacy. I have a very high tolerance for what people may consider awkward so the counseling was a breeze. My friends and I are often used to TMI conversations anyway.
Some examples of the questions that some ppl may consider sensitive (that I can recall) were: do you fear for your safety when your sig other is angry? Do you have alcholism/addiction/violence in the family? Do you feel (forsee being) embarassed by your naked body in front of your sig other? Are you being forced into marriage by parents, pregnancies, outside pressure?….