(Closed) Pre-marital counseling help/suggestions

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Well….

Maybe Ya’ll could do a phone conference with His Uncle. I’m sure that if he’s officiating & knows the circumstance, and wants ya’ll to do it then he’d be happy to help.

My Fiance & I are using the book Preparing For Marriage It also has a leaders book that your FIs uncle could get..

I think it’d be really simple to do what ya’ll need to do in the books (there’s a couple of worksheets in the beginning.. personal history & great expectations) & then discuss each session via phone with his uncle.

I think it’d totally work! And I really love the book for a guideline =)

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

That makes sense! And yea I think ya’ll definitely could do it yourselves… I would probably still get the leaders guide so then maybe…

Ya’ll can read the chapters in the reg book and then refer to the leaders guide for how to process…

I know that things our pastor has brought up from his guide have had a different perspective than our books.

Definitely be praying for you guys… & definitely start praying together about it (if you don’t already) ESPECIALLY before ya’ll review your chapters together… keep you guys open & unified so that strife starting little enemy can’t come in and get ya’ll at ends with each other 😉

Goodluck & Enjoy…. I am SOOOOOO glad we’ve started & are doing this!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We’re using Preparing for Marriage as well. If you can meet with a pastor, it is worth it!! Even if you’re only together for a short amount of time, it is time well spent!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Miss_Baker YAY!!! Another Preparing for Marriage Bride…. =)

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We used Prepare to Last through our church.  You can buy it online and do it together when you’re spending time together!  It was an awesome program!  I really recommend it.

 

The first part of the program is the “couple checkup” which you can do from your separate locations online.  It basically gives you like a 12 page look at where your beliefs and thoughts match up, and gives an assesment of places you can work on with each other.

Then you follow the lessons (there are like 8) that are on a DVD (so there’s really not much boring reading! Fiance loved that), and then during each lesson, you work through the chapter in the book and there’s a “date night” for each lesson, which some were super fun!  One of them was to “go out to eat and work through a couple pages in the book”  another was to “goto the mall, and have Fiance buy a stuffed animal and hide it.  Then he is supposed to call you on the phone and direct you to it from a central location.” 

It’s really hands on, and not as boring as some book classes can be.  The DVDs are also quite hilarious! It’s like watching a stand-up routine!

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We are in pre marital counseling also. We meet with our pastor one sunday a month for about 2 hours or so, depending on what questions stem from the conversation. We are reading a book called “This Momentary Marriage” by John Piper. It is a great book so far, we have only read 4 chapters. We read a chapter a week, and then on Fridays I pick Fiance up from work, and we go to a starbucks or panera, or we have a picnic at the park (when weather starts to warm up soon, I hope) and talk about the chapter. I know your LDR, but talking about a chapter or 2 a week might help bring you closer. 

Our pastor suggested we do that so that we get in the roles of communicating, and my Fiance leads the conversation so he gets in the role of a husband being the decison maker. Fiance is so kind, it is hard for him to make the final decision sometimes. 

Our pastor also suggested to us “When Sinners Say I Do.” We havent looked into that one yet, but that is what he and his wife used 7 yeras ago when they got married.

Hope this helps!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We were long distance for our whole engagement. We ended up going through a book over the phone and our visits, and then we met with our pastor to discuss it in about 3 hours all at once (not ideal, but it worked!)

In addition, we read some other books together. Books we liked:

Before You Say I Do

When Sinners Say I Do

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