(Closed) Pre-Marriage Counseling

posted 12 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
Member
15 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My husband and I did do pre-marriage counseling.  We have a large church and the counseling was done in a big group setting, not one on one.  It wasn’t overly religious we discussed how to treat the person you love, how to respect your partner, how to deal with money issues.  We also met with a portion of the group who were also encore couples and talked about blending a family and the issues that may arise when kids are involved.  I enjoyed it, but my DH said he didn’t get much out of it.

At the end of the two days we received a certificate that we brought with us when we got our marriage license.  It reduced the cost of the license by $70.00.

Post # 4
Member
6586 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I didn’t do it for my first marriage.  I wouldn’t be opposed to it for my encore, but honestly I hadn’t really thought about it too much.  But now that you brought it up…. 🙂

Post # 5
Member
26 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

i wouldnt mind it, but we are both in different continents serving overseas, so it isnt really possible.

however, we are reading books and articles that touch on many subjects that will come up in our marriage. .. .

Post # 6
Member
20 posts
Newbee

I think it’s a great idea but the challenge is finding something that is useful.  We looked into doing some pre-marital counseling but most of it was through churches and geared towards young couples getting married for the first time or couples with problems.

There is a book called 1001 things to Ask before you get Married (or something like that).  You could get that and just ask each other the questions and see where it goes!

The other option is to each do a few sessions of separate counseling.  My Fiance and I ended up doing this and it was really helpful.  We each talked to our separate people about our hopes/fears/concerns about getting married.  Then we would come home and talk to each other about it.  I have no idea if it will make our marriage stronger in the long run but it felt good to have some input on it.

-Mona

p.s. if you end up finding something cool online I’d LOVE to know about it!

Post # 7
Member
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Pre-marriage counseling is a requirement.  Both of us agree and we’re likely going to go both the religious route and non-religious, more psychological route.  Maybe start out by reading a book together and then when you find something, you’ll already know what you need to discuss.  I suggest one of those weekend retreats that focus on pre-marital counseling or couples counseling.  Google is your friend or even try Yelp.com.  

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