Post # 1
Do you guys think it is necessary for me and my Fiance to tell our pastor (doing our pre marriage counseling) about intimate things like how ‘far we go’ (ha) or do you think it isn’t his place to probe?
Just curious as to your opinions, i feel like that is an intimate thing and should be kept private. Thoughts?
Post # 3
I’m Catholic and in my counseling my priest has not asked or even tried to get us to say anything about it. I don’t really know any priests who enjoy discussing that topic at all during the marriage prep counseling. haha. Basically my priest tells us what the Church teaches, asks if we understand why the Church teaches that way, and leaves it at that.
If your pastor is married, I can see how he might be more comfotable with the topic, but it is up to you to decide how much you want to reveal. I wouldn’t get upset if he asks, I would just respectfully decline to answer. Or just speak about hypothetical situations.
Post # 4
I think this may depend on your sect.
Post # 5
I would say that unless you’re asked, you don’t need to volunteer anything. Our pastor who did the counseling for us didn’t focus on things like that, and we made it through the whole thing without him asking us directly where we were on that.
It’s a big part of marriage, but the actual intimacy and the relationship you and your FH have that they will likely be discussed more. Obviously, a healthy one leads to a healthy intimate life in your marriage.