Post # 1
Appologies if this is in the wrong spot, but I’m not sure where to go on this one.
Several close-ish people to us are in the process of divorcing and while my husband-to-be and I generally see eye to eye on most things I think it’s important that we have a good foundation to build our marriage on. Both of us want to avoid divorce as much as possible.
Anyway, I was wondering if you guys had any suggestions for a non-religious book or website for some at home counseling. 🙂
Post # 3
I am a BIG BIG BIG believer in this theory.. take a look and order the book online- its worth the investment.
Just my .02
Post # 4
Does your company have an EAP? With my company’s EAP we got 3 free counseling sessions. We just found a therapist through the EAP network and the health insurance took care of it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
@retreadbride: I haven’t personally used it, but other people have recommended this to me, and from how it is described, it sounds really helpful. I want to read the book with my Fiance eventually.
Post # 6
we’re seeing a regular marriage counselor… she stated that she typically does a 4/6 session for premartial counseling after which if we wanted to continue we could but she is following a “course” outline that lasts for about 4/6 weeks
Ive heard the5 Love Lanaguages was an excellent book to read
Post # 7
dont wait- buy the book– it really makes sense– instead of doing the dishes, maybe he just wants you sit watching tv– Its amazing how we can all love so differently.
Post # 8
I know you said non-religious, my Fiance and I are having an outdoor ceremony which means no Catholic priest or church ceremony. We are non-practicing Catholics. My sister recomended going through Pre-Cana even if we are not getting married in the church just because it was the best thing for their relationship she felt they did. It asked a lot of questions on how they would handle certain conflicts in the future just so the thought is out there so when it came down to disciplining kids there was no “I didn”t know you would act like that?!” Hope that helps!
Post # 9
A church near us holds a non-denominational, religion not required pre-marriage course. We’re going to go to that.
Post # 10
I saw a post about this a few weeks ago on “A Practical Wedding” and there was some great book recommendations: http://apracticalwedding.com/2011/01/ask-team-practical-books-for-brides-wives/
I have heard good things about “The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say I Do” by Susan Piver. Quite a few people on the link above suggest reading “Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman.
I’m in a similar situation and plan on reading both. I too want to avoid divorce as much as possible but my fiance and I are not the religious types.
Post # 11
@SerenaSF: regarding John Gottman– I was in one of his original Harvard studies- hmmm 27 years on that marriage. Guess thats a pretty good run.
Post # 12
I was also thinking about doing the same thing.
If you both want to, then go for it! The book idea seems like a better idea for creating a more initimate period of time between the two of you.
Post # 13
If you do the 5 Languages dont treat it like a Comso quiz- based on my experience- those really tax the patience of even the most nuturing guy. Let him read it- and then get together to discuss….