(Closed) Pre-shipped shower gifts – to open or not?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Open pre-shipped shower gifts before the shower?
    Heck yes - open them as they arrive! : (21 votes)
    70 %
    No way - opening gifts before the shower would diminish the excitement of the day! : (9 votes)
    30 %
    Other answer (explain below) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    27 posts
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I couldn’t find anything about opening gifts before the shower but I did find out about opening wedding gifts before the wedding. Apparently you are allowed to open the presents but not use them before the wedding. That would be bad luck (only if you’re superstitious). This allows you to send out thank you notes earlier. I would just say do what you feel like.

    Post # 4
    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    I would probably resist the urge to open and wait until after the shower. Could you make a list of who the packages that arrive are from? I don’t know what information is included on the address label. Or even just have a count of how many you receive.

    I feel like a lot of the fun of showers is to watch the gifts being opened. Since they are sending them to you for convenience at least they could see you be surprised by their card.

    Post # 5
    1740 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    i know i will not resist the temptation.. but if u can then try it… 🙂

    Post # 6
    2004 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I would follow your plan—open them and send thank you’s right away. It’s better to assuage any fears of things getting lost in the mail than to act surprised.

    I also had a shower far away from home, with the shower guests being all locals. Nearly all of the guests ended up bringing gifts to the shower, and I had to get them back home on my own! It was fun to open presents there but aggravating to get them all back.

    Post # 8
    1250 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I agree – I’m opening gifts as they come, and sending acknowledgements along the way. It will save you time with the thank-you notes, and I don’t think people would be offended…you’re going to have fun at the shower even if every gift has already been opened. This way you can enjoy everyone’s company without being distracted by shiny presents!

    Post # 9
    3125 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    presents!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! haha something is in my house? it’s opened. I may not USE it, but I want to open it up. I also snoop for xmas gifts, so that’s my bias.

    Post # 10
    1336 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Yes, it’ll save time for the thank you notes, and anything that saves time is A plus.

    Post # 11
    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Its a tough question. I see your point about guests not wanting to worry about if you received the present or not, but will guests really buy/send the gift a month plus in advance?

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