(Closed) Pre Wedding Blues

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
10 posts
  • Wedding: January 2012

Sorry I can’t help with your poll, we are paying for everything. I am not sure I understand what the cause of the stress with your grandmother. Is it she is paying for everything and you hate her choices? It is always a good idea to go to a neutral party to help diffuse a problem.  Maybe if you can explain what the stress is I could help? Not saying I know a whole lot about much. But I got a lot of help from the folks today and hoping I could help someone else. How old are you? If you don’t mind me asking  and forget those mean people on the other board.

Post # 4
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Sorry you are going through this! 🙁 Transitioning all at once is tough!

First of all, I would say that it is not too late to hire a planner. I have a day-of planner which essentially means that I meet with her a month before the wedding to go over the details and to make sure I haven’t forgotten anything. I next see her at the rehersal and then the wedding.

It’s wonderful having someone there who can coordinate with vendors and make sure everything goes smoothly.

I would also highly recommend counseling. Sometimes churches offer couseling or have resources/counselors they recommend. It sounds like you might have this option as you mentioned you are having a LDS ceremony.

Being a worrier and an overly cautious person I’ve found counseling very helpful throughout my life but particularly during the pre-marriage process. We chose to do pre-engagement and pre-marital counseling and I went to a counselor on my own for other issues. You can meet counselors on your own or, if your grandmother agrees, you can meet with one together with your fiance. However you want to do it.

As for your questioning your faith, I really feel for you! It’s a tough thing but hang in there! I truly believe that God is big enough for our questions. Do you have friends that you can turn to to sort things out or a pastor to help you along? I’ve found that going to my pastor with some of my spiritual questions to be very helpful and most churches have a counseling type pastor.

I’ll be praying for you and I hope everything works out so you can enjoy your wedding! 🙂

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