Post # 1
I am having a Destination Wedding… sort of. I live in FL but grew up in MN and still have tons of family there. A bridal shower turned into a couples shower that turned into a “Pre-Wedding Celebration”. My mom was feeling really bad that we couldn’t invite more people to the wedding so my Grandma and her wanted to throw this big party ( I am not excited). Now we have the pre-wedding celebration and I am worried about etiquette. Not everyone who is invited is invited to the wedding. I have made a special website for the event because it is so big. Should I put where we are registered? I am not expecting gifts but if they want to give something I am sure they want to know where we are registered. My second dilemma is invite wording… should it be formal or casual? Any advice would be great!
Post # 3
I think it should be formal, just so they feel special. Even though they aren’t invited to the wedding, i think you should still list your registry. People do this when they invite people to the reception and not the wedding….so what if your party is beforehand?
Best of luck!
Post # 4
I think making it formal would be okay… like mrsv2be said, it might make the people not invited to the wedding feel special. Although, if you are already not happy about it because you feel uncomfortable about the whole thing, you can always make it informal as well if that would make you feel more comfortable. Personally, I don’t think though that you should put any information about the registry on your invite though. The people not invited to the wedding, as well as the guests already going to the wedding who are bringing presents to that, may feel offended about being asked for presents. I say do the prewedding party which ever way would make you feel more comfortable, and don’t put registry stuff on the invite. If people ask about the registry later you can always give them the information later if they would like to give gifts but putting the registry information on the invite makes it seems like gifts are expected…