(Closed) Pre-wedding cleanse: Get rid of my fiance's old bed?

posted 5 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
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2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I understand where you’re coming from, I promise, but if you get a cheaper bed, YOU’LL FEEL IT!

How about you put on sale on craigslist/amazon and use the money to buy a new bed?

 

Post # 5
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288 posts
Helper bee

@bebero:  +1 

I would suggest selling it on craigslist and using that money for a new bed.

Post # 6
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9668 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I agree with PPs, sell it and put the money towards a new one! I wouldn’t want to keep the bed either.

Post # 7
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2564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Ditch the bed – Fiance has had one he bought with the ex-wife since I’ve known him and we are luckily getting a new one as a wedding gift. 

Post # 8
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2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@soontobemrsemr:  It’s totally ok to want and get a new bed!!! I would ask for a new one too… I actually did! We aren’t married yet (Nov) but when I moved in, another was bought. Plus bedding as it was from his first marriage. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would ditch the bed.  If it’s something that bothers you then the cost of a new bed is worth the peace of mind.  You’re getting a new house, new husband, so a new bed fits right in.

Post # 10
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2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ditch the bed.  No amount of money is worth that nasty little thought in the back of your head of ‘she slept here too’ and what that thought will do.  New bed, new sheets, fresh start! 

Post # 11
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5886 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you can afford it, get a new bed. If not, do a clensing with a smudge stick.

Post # 12
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1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m extremely practical, and I wouldn’t ditch a $5K bed just because someone I don’t like once slept on it. But if you think it’s going to have bad associations for you to the point of not being able to ignore it, then you could try to sell it. But in this bedbuggy day and age, I wouldn’t expect much for it.

Post # 13
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would totally keep the bed, but I don’t think objects carry energy.  I think a bed is a bed, and it would be silly to waste something so expensive.

Post # 14
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1069 posts
Bumble bee

I went through this a year ago with my SO and the stuff he had with his ex wife. I temporarily lived with him at the house they bought together until we bought our house… it was a beautiful home but I was going crazy being there! My SO didn’t want to throw out their mattress because it cost so much money and he was not backing down on it. So then I told him fine, we’ll keep it but I want all the sheets, pillows, etc. that I had with my ex. It made him realise pretty quickly what I meant and so we bought a new one.

The old mattress is now in our spare room, but if we can find someone who wants it, it’s theirs. I hate it being in our home and it’s too big for that room anyway. The bed I am fine with, mattress not so much.

I was making the bed once when I was living in his old house and one of the pillows had her initial on it. One that I had slept on! I all but threw up lol.

ETA: (and I can’t believe I’m telling people about this). It wasn’t practical for us to throw out the couch that they had together so we have it in our house. One day after finding some stuff from their marriage that upset me (I’m immature sometimes clearly), I called a friend and she came over with a bottle of wine and a bunch of cleaning stuff. We scrubbed the HELL out of that thing! She made some weird baking soda thing and we “cleaned out all ex wife energy”, whatever that means! Either way, it did actually help.

Post # 15
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1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Nope, I would get rid of the bed. It would bother me that I was sleeping on the same bed that my fiance and his ex slept in together..

Post # 16
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@soontobemrsemr:  FYI…it’s illegal to sell beds (matresses, to be exact), so that’s not an option. Get some sage and cleanse that sleep number!

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