(Closed) Pre-Wedding Friend Drama?!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hi Mrs W..I’ve actually been on the opposite end of your situation. I have a close friend that got married about a year ago, whenever we invited her and her fiancé out she would always claim money issues/ saving for a wedding as her reason why she couldn’t come out and spend time with us. While I respected her right to save money for her day it became increasingly frustrating to never see someone who was a large presence in my life before her wedding and only getting to spend time with her when it involved her and her wedding.  In the year and a half she was engaged we never spent time together unless it involved her wedding or us visiting her to see her new home. I suggest you try to find activities you can do with your friends that don’t involve spending money maybe look in your local newspaper for free festivals do some window shopping or have your best girl friends over for some girl talk and try to keep the wedding chat down to a minimum. Your friends invite you out because they want to spend time with you and the shit talk you may be hearing is only there way of coping with whatever hurt feelings they may have from you declining the invite. Hope This Helps Smile

Post # 5
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yea that kinda blows if it makes you feel better my Fiance and I are very much the going out type and the friend and her husband (the one I mentioned in the post above) are not we’ve learned over time that when we want to have a casual dinner at home with some wine or some leisurly flea market shopping they are the people to call when we want to go out and rock it out at a concert we go out by ourselves. Over time we have also been able to slowley introduce them to our lifestyle and they seem to enjoy themselves when they do come. They even call us now and ask when were heading out to Downtown for some fun bc they want to tag along. I guess what im trying to say is if the friendship is valued on both ends you will be able to balance out the diffrences in your life style and have an even stronger friendship with your friends if thats not the case then they werent important enough to hold onto int he first place….good luck!

Post # 6
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mrs_w: I had friends like this. They really don’t have any real responsibilities and always blew $50 at the bar every weekend. My friends and I are creative. My SO and I have decided that we are only going out out once a month. Now, instead of going out every Saturday, we invite our friends over for poker night. We play Texas Hold’em and have a great time.

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