(Closed) Pre-Wedding Get Togther… I’m a little sad

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@KatNYC2011: Awww hun I’m sorry.  I know how you feel though.  I love my bridesmaids, but sometimes I have the same feeling, that FI’s groomsmen care about him more than my girls care about me. He’s been close to most of his guys though since the 3rd grade though… I mean for our jack & jill shower, only one of my bridesmaids is for sure coming, and she’s my sister!  Whereas his groomsmen are coming in from all over the place.  It makes me sad, but just remember, it doesn’t have to do with not caring about you.  People just get busy.

But I’m sure it is nothing personal on their part.  And I’m sure that you and your bridesmaid will have an amazing time!  Just think about it as tiem to spend with her.  Like a getaway.  Don’t worry hun, it’ll be fun…you’re going to the beach!  With your fiance and those closest to both of you!  And maybe some of the other girls will come, maybe they won’t, but just remember….you’ll be lying on a beach and relaxing and having a good time ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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2465 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

aww that stinks! i know how you feel a bit–all my hubby’s groomsmen, besides my brother, went to his bachelor party, which was out of town for everyone except 1 gm, whose house they all went to. but 3 of my bms didn’t make it to my shower/bachelorette weekend. it was oot for those 3, but for 2 of them only nyc-dc, so a decently easy trip…and i envy the guys’ relationships sometimes–they’re much lower maintanence and they always have each others’ backs even when they don’t see each other often, whereas i feel my relationships with friends just take so much more energy.

Post # 6
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223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i know EXACTLY what you mean. my guy’s brother and his best friend are flying him up to where they are and throwing him a bbq bachelor party where apparently 20 of his cloest friends will be. i mean. seriously? talk about mr popularity. and little old me? i was so sad about it that he offered to fly me out to vegas to spend a weekend with my bff/sister. 

i just think that girls drift apart more than guys do. it’s weird. it’s like guy code or something. but think of it this way, once the whole wedding thing is over, you and your guy will be flying off into your lives…leaving stressful things like this in the past. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 7
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827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@KatNYC2011: You shouldn’t have to be alone.  Can you talk to your Fiance about this?  Personally, if it were me, I’d totally go on the deep sea fishing trip lol, but that’s because I love fishing.  Or if you don’t like fishing, there’s nothing wrong with a spa day to yourself!  Treat yourself to a massage….

Post # 9
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Where are you going?You’ll have a great time once you get there – but I’d be sad too.

I def like the idea of inviting the guys girlfriends and maybe some additional friends. It doesn’t have to be just a BM/GM thing. Make it a friend weekend ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@KatNYC2011: Awww ๐Ÿ™ I’m sorry!  I’d be sad too.  It’d be one thing if your FI’s guys weren’t (almost) all going to be there, but that sounds like it might be depressing to just hang out on your own on the wedding party weekend while they go do guy things. 

Find a spa nearby and schedule yourself a spa day after your Bridesmaid or Best Man leaves! 

Post # 12
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Check Fly.com and Sidestep.com (if you haven’t already!) maybe you’ll find a good deal! Also Travelzoo.com.

On a positive note – this might be a good chance for you to bond with the GM? I’m sure you’re already friendly with them but nothing solidfies a bond faster than a vacay together right?

Post # 14
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968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Aww, that is sad. Do you have any other girlfriends who you could invite to come for the girls weekend? It doesn’t necessarily need to be your bridesmaids that come spend girly time with you. I hope you are able to have a good time and not feel too left out if it ends up just being you, though! :/

Post # 15
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2410 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Definitely see if you can invite other girlfriends, but if it doesn’t work out just relax and enjoy yourself anyway. You are awesome on the boards which means you are probably twice as awesome in real life. There is no way you BMs don’t love you! Hugs.

Post # 16
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405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You should do the spa day anyways (with your friend or just by yourself if it’s after she leaves).  I don’t know if you’ve done a spa day with your friends before, but depending on what you get done you may not see them much there anyways.  We did a spa day for a friend’s engagement party and we did massages, facials and manis/pedis.  The only thing that I kind of saw people were the manis/pedis.  So if that’s what you are doing you could just go yourself and enjoy some *you time* to relax and get away from wedding stress!

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