(Closed) Pre-Wedding gift from someone attending the wedding – thank you note question

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We sent our thank yous out before the wedding.  We had a small wedding too.  I didn’t send anyone a thank you specifically for coming to the wedding though.

Post # 4
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you should wait until right after the wedding. I totally agree that sending thank yous ASAP is good form, so you can’t really go wrong, but if you are having a small wedding, it would be really thoughtful to have a note about their attendance, (like “Mary, you looked beautiful” or “It was just wonderful seeing your happy faces while I walked down the aisle”). No one will have expected you to have opened the gifts now, so waiting is fine.

Post # 5
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We started getting gifts over a month ago (our wedding is may 8th) and I sent thank yous immediately and told them we were looking forward to seeing them at the wedding. We’re also planning on sending another card after the wedding to thank them for attending and hopefully send them a photo. I think it’s totally up to you how you want to handle it but I always appreciate getting thanks you promptly.

Post # 6
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I haven’t gotten married yet but the same thing happened with our wedding shower. Our shower was Sunday and I started the thank you notes last night and am doing those for the people who came to the shower now. The only thank you notes I sent out before were for those who sent a gift but were unable to attend.

Post # 7
35 posts
  • Wedding: May 2010

I always think it is best to send the thank-you note RIGHT after you receive the gift, and that is what I have been doing. I would think that if someone doesn’t hear from you for a month after they sent a gift, they will wonder whether you actually received it. Plus, I think it is possible that people still might bring a card to the wedding, in which case I would probably send another card thanking them for coming and for their lovely card or whatever…

Post # 8
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I always say to send a thank you immediately after receiving a gift.  If you want to send a thank you also for attending the wedding you can do that as well. 

Post # 9
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

Ditto @shaydenise, I was going to say the same thing

Post # 11
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I suggest, going forward or for other Bees, you give them a spontaneous phone call thank-you now and follow-up with a written thank-you within a month after the wedding. You can actually start your thank-you notes now by addressing the envelopes as the gifts come in, mail them after.

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