Post # 1
Anyone have pre-wedding jitters?? I’ve been dating my fiance for 4 years. We got engaged in September 2010 and the wedding is this coming September. Was never really scared about the ‘spending the rest of your lives together part,” but for some reason it’s been freaking me out lately and I can’t put my finger on why. I have a hunch that it’s stress. We moved to NY from Philly in August for my job. He’s a self-employed night club DJ and music producer so it’s been a little rough getting things going for him in a new city. So he’s hasn’t been in the best of spirits. And my job, although I love it and am certain I couldn’t have made a better career move, is becoming increasingly demanding and stressful. So could it just be stress or am I missing something that could be really wrong?
Post # 3
I think what you are going through is normal. Our entire year of engagement was really stressful for me and because of that stress I would question things. I think it’s healthy to question things though because it is way to make sure that you are 100% ready to commit to your marriage. If you just went into it blindly then you might be having these thoughts later on when the time isn’t right. You still have 8+ months til your wedding so take that time to reflect on your relationship with your fiance and plan for your marriage. Attend pre-marital counseling, have lots of conversations about life with your fiance, talk about your feelings and just be open. Here are some topics/questions to discuss before you get married – http://www.liweddings.com/chat/topic-45489-1.html.
Just know that many women go through this so don’t feel like you are not normal!
Post # 4
@PitBulLover: I want to ‘exactly!’ your post.
OP, this time IS stressful. Don’t get caught up in any expectations of the blissful bride. Take a step back now to breathe and listen to yourself. Make sure that you are wholeheartedly committed to this. And, seek counseling if it eases you and your Fiance. It’s OK to be a little (or a lot) nervous!
Post # 5
i have wedding jitters! but not marriage jitters. i am wayyyy more prepared for the marriage than the wedding – the wedding makes me anxious – the marriage makes me smile
Post # 6
@totheislnds: dont worry about the wedding (which is hard not to do) – it will be an amazing day!!
Post # 7
@PitBulLover: thanks for the uplifting response 🙂 see this is why i love the bee