Post # 1
Ok, I dont know if this is normal but I could use some help. I am recently engaged and planning a wedding for May 2011. Its almost a year away and I already have major jitters! Planning, making decisions and even going to my first appointment to see a venue is making me shake! Anybody have advice on what I can do to be less overwhelmed and a little more excited?? I just don’t even know where to start! AH!
Post # 3
I think it’s totally normal! Once you get going, you won’t feel so nervous. Start by thinking about the overall feel of your wedding (garden, church, banquet hall, etc) and then (this is biggie) make a budget!! The first big vendor you’ll book will be the venue – that sets the tone for everything else.
Just jump in and get started! The Bees are always here to help!
Post # 4
I think it’s totally normal. I had to take a few months to even just get used to being engaged. Becoming engaged and then getting married is a huge time of transition in your life, so I think it makes sense that you will feel shaky. You might want to read this book called, “Emotionally Engaged” (http://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Engaged-Brides-Surviving-Happiest/dp/B001G8WLMA/ref=pd_sim_b_3). I read it and found it helpful and very comforting.
It’s overwhelming to consider all of the planning you will be doing, but don’t worry, you’ll get into it and things will end up working out. I am not a big planner and not having a very “DIY” wedding, but even so I got wrapped up in the planning. You should just visit some venues and start to get an idea for what you like. It will become obvious.
I think that as long as your jitters are related to the wedding itself and not to your fiance, it’s fine! Even if they do have to do with your fiance, take it with a grain of salt. Marrying someone is a huge step and being engaged can bring up a lot of issues. In most ways my fiance and I are closer than ever, but there have been periods of stress and fighting during the time we’ve been engaged.
I think wedding planning is stressful and I just want my wedding day to be here already! So don’t worry, you’re not alone.
Post # 5
I completely agree with everyone. Its normal to feel like this. I got engaged at the end of April and we planned the wedding for next June and until I booked a venue it was very hard to decide on anything else. Once we booked the venue, within a month, we had almost everything else booked. We booked the videographer last week and we just have to wait on save the dates after our engagement photos in the fall and then invites in January when the new books come out. It’ll all work out once you get the ball rolling 🙂