Post # 1
My parents live in DC, his in south Alabama…we currently live in AL and our wedding will be here as well.
With me so far? Good- We are having a small wedding next fall, topping out at 60 people, max. My parents have a ton of people and extended family (think 200 people, minimum) that I don’t necessarily want at the actual wedding. We decided on a pre-wedding party in DC to invite those that won’t be invited to the wedding due to it’s intimate nature.
Here’s the question- what do I call this celebration without having people make the asumption that they’re invited to the wedding? It seems a little late to call it an engagement party, though I’m not the most traditional, so i really dont care, but apparently the wedding world has it’s own rules! 🙂 I’m thinking of a semi-casual, indoor-outdoor, hors d’oeuvre and cocktail thing at my parents house. Does it have to have a theme? Should it?
Any wording advice- or advice in general-would be great!!
Post # 3
@dtz09: I’m having this issue too. We live in Dubai, but most of our family is based in the UK, yet we are having our wedding in Sri Lanka. The most important ppl will be at our wedding, but the majority of our large families will not be able to attend, which is fine by us, as we want it to be initimate and we need to watch costs – However, some people really will be missed.
FI’s mother has offered to host a party in January 2013, when we are over in the UK for my cousins wedding, this will happen after my cousins wedding. We think about 100 ppl will come, and these will be people who we would naturally invite, if we were marrying in the UK. My Fiance and I wanted to do this any way, so the fact that his mum is offering to cover costs is a bonus.
The party will happen 1 year after our engagement and 1 year before the wedding.
Now, we had our recent engagement party with friends in Dubai, a very chilled one, but felt bad that our families missed out and that we coud not share it with them. We also would love to involve those who cant make it out to our actual wedding with some kind of party. We are not looking for gifts, that is not our objective, we just want to have a good evening with all those we love………so the names I have thought of are:
*Rio & Adam’s belated engagement party (UK)
*Meet the families – Pre wedding party.
DTZ – Please use the above if it fits….
ANY OTHER suggestions Bee’s?
Post # 4
Personally I would call it an engagement party. I think people will underStand the situation and not beoffended that they aren’t invited to the wedding
Post # 5
Hmm…I think the only way this would work is if you removed all aspects of the wedding from the party and just had, well, a normal party. It’s very rude to invite people to a pre-wedding party and not the wedding. I think lots of guests would expect to be invited and offended when they found out their weren’t. Another option is to just have a second reception-style party after the wedding.