- Vintage Garden Bride
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
Ok, here’s the situation.
My Fiance and I are getting married in the Presbyterian church I grew up in as a kid. This is the same church my parents were married in, which I think is a great way to pay homage to their relationship. Both the Fiance and I have met the current pastor of the church multiple times, and love him as a person. However, we recently attended a wedding at the church back in October where he served as the officiant, and he was a total scatterbrain–we’re talking the groom had to remind him what part of the ceremony was next, etc. He played it off lightheartedly, but it really seemed like he wasn’t at all prepared for the ceremony. I’m worried if we use him for our ceremony he’ll be the same way.
Insert situation number two: My grandpa (my dad’s dad) is a retired Presbyterian minister in his early 80s, and my dad recently suggested I should consider asking him to officiate our ceremony because he’s starting to feel useless now that he’s older. This would again pay homage to my parents’ marriage because my grandpa served as the pastor at their wedding ceremony, too. However, my grandpa loves to hear himself talk/is incredibly long-winded, and I’ve always felt kind of awkward around him. He lives in another state so I never spent much time around him growing up and my Fiance has never met him before.
Herein lies the dilemma: should we go with the current pastor of the church, or go with my grandpa? Or is there a third option I’m missing? Help me, bees!