(Closed) Preacher drama–help me, bees!

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Which officiant should my FI and I choose?
    The current pastor of the church we're getting married in : (2 votes)
    33 %
    My retired minister of a grandpa : (4 votes)
    67 %
  • Post # 3
    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’d consider having your Grandfather do either a blessing for the ceremony or say grace at the reception to include him but limit his time.  As for your current minister, consider talking to him.  Everyone can have an off day.  If he’s normally good, probe about the bad ceremony politely and decide from there if you need to consider someone else.

    Post # 4
    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    why can’t they both do it? Have the pastor of the church give the sermon, but your grandfather do most other things?

    Post # 5
    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Cappugcino:  I like this idea. You could have the actual pastor do the wedding, but follow up a lot and talk to him about how he prepares for the wedding. I would also have your grandpa particiapte in someway as suggested. Maybe he could even do the vows – the “important part”, but he wouldn’t have an opportunity to go on and on. 

    Post # 6
    154 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    It is possible that the other couple did not give the pastor any direction on how they wanted the ceremony to flow.

    I agree that you should use the current minister, but ask your grandpa to say a prayer or blessing.

    Meet with the pastor and fully explain what you expect on your wedding day. Ask if he has any recommendations for the ceremony or you could write your own ceremony so he has everything in front of him for the big day.

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