Post # 1
I am going to my yearly physical exam tomorrow morning and wanted FH to come with me because I am having a preconception check as well, and this is a new Dr for me. I mentioned something to a friend about FH coming with me, and she replied “not in the room though right?”…so I am wondering, if its weird to have FH come in the room with me for my exam…do they not allow it or frown upon it? Should I ask the nurse if its ok…or just go alone to begin with? I know I will be a million times more comfortable if he can come in with me but don’t want to “break any rules”…also…anything specific I should ask at my preconception check?….any advice/tips would be great! thanks!
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s a problem. I think that before you are ttc, it is not as common. But once you have conceived, husbands go along all of the time. And I think it makes sense for him to be there, since he will be part of the process!
I think that if you want him there for the preconception questions, go right ahead.
Post # 4
If it makes you more comfortable than do it. Seriously your friend needs to understand if you’re having a child with him he’s going to see alot more done than maybe a simple pelvic check! 🙂 FWIW mine didn’t go to my preconception visit but he’s been to everything else. He’s seen our IUIs done, my transvaginal ultrasounds done etc. There hasn’t been anything yet that’s weirded him out.
Post # 5
But you booked it as a yearly physical? I feel like if you booked it as a ‘preconception visit’ then it would totally make sense to have him in there. At your yearly physical I do feel like it’s kindof weird. But I’m sure the doc will figure it out soon.
Post # 6
Not in the room? How does she think baby is going to come out? He’s gonna see a lot more than at this visit.
I don’t see a problem with him coming. I didn’t have a preconception visit and he didn’t come. I just asked all my questions at my yearly visit to kill 2 birds with 2 stones.LOL I don’t see why it would be a roblem for him to come. She may want to ask him about a semen analysis and other things, so it might be good for him to hear, not just get it from you later.
Post # 7
Some people are not comfortable with others around. She might be one of those people. Some women don’t want anyone in there when they are giving birth except their doctor. Other people invite everyone they know. It is all personal preference. If you don’t care if he sees your private parts (which I am sure he already has) and hears any private information you discuss with your doctor then by all means bring him in!
Post # 8
Some things they don’t even LET the man come in.
I had to get a mammogram & ultrasound on my boob last year, they wouldn’t let my now-husband come in the room with me.
One of my friends had to go through a test to see if her fallopian tubes were open (they had to use frozen sperm since her husband had testicular cancer, so they needed to make sure both tubes were working) by putting dye up in them, she said it was scary and hurt like hell, but they wouldn’t let her husband be in the room either.
So it’s probably best to call your doctor and see if he’s allowed to come first.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t think it was weird at all. Since my Darling Husband works my mom has gone with me to some appointments kind of like that and it’s never been a problem!
Post # 10
I was in the exact same position last year. I was seeing a new doctor and booked my exam as my yearly exam but also planned on talking about TTC since we would be within the next year. I called the nurse to see if it was ok for hubby to come and she said it’s pretty common. He was in the room the whole time and he was able to hear the doctor answer all my questions – sometimes I’m not very good at relaying what the doctor says! If it makes you more comfortable I say go for it – this is a very important step in your life and of course your gonna want him to be by your side.
Post # 11
Thanks girls, I ended up having him come in with me and it was no problem! The nurse and new Dr were super nice and bubbly and chatty so they had no problem with it! It was nice for him to hear everything she had to say 🙂