Post # 1
When I asked 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man to stand in my wedding, she informed me that her and her husband (also a GM) were trying to get pregnant. I was so excited for them as they are great friends of ours. I told her I wanted her to stand in my wedding no matter if she got pregnant or not! I stand by that. Now she is pregnant and will be 38 weeks pregnant on our wedding day. As long as she is in good health and feeling up to it~ I still want them in.
I am just worried that something will happen and she will deliver early, not be able to come, etc and they will have already purchased Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and tux for wedding! IDK how to deal with this type of situation. She keeps saying it’s up to me if I still want her in but I feel like it’s really up to HER and her pregnancy! (Oh, and she lives 4 hours from where my wedding is!)Thoughts!?
Post # 3
Definately play it by ear since it sounds like you still want her in it and she still wants to be in it. Who know how she will be feeling at that point.
Post # 4
Yes, you are correct. It IS up to her, and her husband, whether she will stand up for you or not.
If she remains in your wedding, be sure to provide her a place to sit in the ceremony if standing gets too much for her.
If she decides to stay home, that is her decision. There is no need for you to ‘do’ anything – perhaps keep her and her husbands names in the program, since their relationships are important to you.
Post # 5
I would wait and see how she feels nearer the time, My Bridesmaid or Best Man was trying and is now pregnant, and she is due 5 weeks before our wedding and was really worried about not knowing how she would feel at that point, so have told her that it’s not a problem, and whilst she won’t be an actual Bridesmaid or Best Man on the day as in wearing the dress and walking down the aisle (her choice), that I would still treat her as my Bridesmaid or Best Man, and she would be included in the Thank You’s and I would still buy her a Bridesmaid or Best Man gift, as it is still her role no matter what 😀 it made her feel much better
A friend of mine had her sister as Bridesmaid or Best Man and she was 38 weeks, and another friend of mine attended a wedding a few days before her due date, everyone is different and it really does depend on how she feels, If you have a particular colour scheme, and you are relaxed about her dress being completely different, wait until a few weeks before and if she is still fine, look for an inexpensive maxi dress that is as close to the colour as possible, that way you are not losing out on money
Post # 6
@applecore: Thanks for the great advice! I feel much better knowing I’m not the only one! It is obviously up to her but it’s stressful because I really want her to be there and stand in my wedding since she’s such a good friend. The biggest problem is that she lives 4 hours away from where my wedding will be! I don’t see how it will work but I guess it will work itself out! Good luck to you too!
Post # 7
FYI: Preggo bridesmaid backed out. I understood. Can’t order dress in a timely fashion sense she won’t know her size, she’ll be uncomfortable, etc. Problem solved.
Post # 8
@PardonMe: Glad to hear it worked out.
I know I’m late, but I just wanted to let you know what I am doing about my preganant (well, she is due 2.5 weeks before the wedding). We are getting a dress from a department store in a few different sizes that has a good return policy. If she is feeling up to it, she will wear whatever dress fits her best at that point. If she doesn’t want to stand up, or can’t make it, she can return all the dresses.
Post # 9
It’s no fun to have to play it by ear, but I think it’s what you have to do. If she wants to be in the wedding and is willing to chance buying a dress she may not use, then I say plan to have her there and have a back-up plan if she can’t make it. I mean really, any bridesmaid could come down with a medical problem preventing her from coming, but you just deal and move on.
Post # 10
@JenGirl: Yeah, that’s what I had decided to do, BUT bridesmaid backed out. I understood. Can’t order dress in a timely fashion sense she won’t know her size, she’ll be uncomfortable, etc. Problem solved.