Hmm… I’m not sure what to do. I liked everyone’s advice, especially what @KatyElle: and @Kemma: suggested; however, my BIL works in HR and he feels that it would be a mistake to cite any personal or lifestyle event, as he feels that validates the bad marks.
He thinks that instead, I should state that I felt I met the objectives outlined in my job description (which I do feel I did). I basically feel like I did everything I was supposed to do during the last 5-6 months, but not much of the the extra stuff I used to do.
My boss knew about the miscarriage and the current pregnancy… he found out when I was only 6 weeks along because I had spotting and therefore lifting restrictions. I work in a small clinical practice with only 5 other people. My boss is the only person above me, except for our administrators in another office.
It is unfortunate that we only have one review per year and that this one is falling after a few very difficult months. In our meeting, I admitted that I haven’t been myself and stated that I had not been feeling well, but hoped things would improve now that I’m in the 2nd tri. My boss said, “Well, I have been very understanding when you had a migraine…” Which is true, but there’s only been one or two cases when I told him I could not do something because of the migraine. I don’t think he realizes that I’ve basically felt like I had the flu all the time for the past few months, even though he’s aware that I’ve been throwing up at work. But I guess the truth of the matter is that my productivity has gone down, end of story.
In any case, I think I will write something about wanting to receive feedback more often and that I need my boss to be more clear about his expectations. As an example of this, is that he sometimes forwards grant opportunities, copies everyone in the office, and says something like, “maybe we should apply for this one?”…but doesn’t say who should do what. In the past, I would sometimes take the lead on putting together an application, but I haven’t been doing that so much lately because I’ve felt so bad…
I’m really sorry if it sounds like I’m whining… I really am very grateful to be pregnant, to be starting to feel a little better, and to have a job at all… it just has been a super crappy week… on Friday, our dream house was sold as we were preparing an offer… on Monday, one of my best friends passed away after a battle with cancer, on Wednesday, I got the bad work review… and all week I’ve been fighting with my husband. But seriously, I just need to end my little pity party, formulate a response to the review, and move on!
Sorry I just wrote a book! Thanks again everyone for the advice.