(Closed) Pregnancy after 30- Give me hope!

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well, it’s not MY story, but my mom got pregnant easily with me at 32 and with my brother at 35 (almost 36), and that was almost 30 years ago.

She had not been sure that she ever wanted babies and so she was on bc, then her doctor told her during her annual exam that she would not be able to have children. She went off bc, and less than 2 months later was getting sick to her stomach all.the.time…..yup, you guessed it – she was pregnant with me! ๐Ÿ™‚

And, a friend of ours just got pregnant at 41, and they were only trying for about a month. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

38, pregnant on first try (about 3 weeks after the wedding) despite the fact that we were told this would be really hard.  Baby scheduled to appear in next week or two.  We were stressed because it happened so soon and we weren’t mentally prepared!

I know it’s not always as easy as we had it, but it’s not always hard either.  Your journey will be whatever it was meant to be, but I wouldn’t stress about it now!

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I have 2 aunts that got pregnant in their 40s and they were NOT trying.  So it’s possible.  Everyone is different.

Also, you may want to consider making life changes to your diet and exercise (if needed).  I’ve read that preparing your body to carry a baby is helpful.  That way you’ll be ready when you start TTC.  Good luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My mom had my brother at 38 and my sister at 42 – don’t stress!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My mom had my brother at 38 and my twin brothers at 45!  I’m 33 and sometimes get stressed about it, like you do, but have hope!  There’s no reason to worry.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

My cousin had a kid at age 39. She had an ovarian cyst in her mid-30’s and wasn’t sure if she’d ever be able to concieve. The only minor annoyance about having children when you’re aged 35 and older is that they make you take some painful tests (I believe they take spine samples with a huge needle). That’s the only things my older cousins have complained about. Other than that they all have happy, healthy babies.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Here’s hope… my sister had her last two boys at age 43 and 42 (the boys are 15 months apart–the first being a surprise, the second planned).  The most recent just being a couple of months ago.  Both babies are perfectly healthy.  I now have 5 nephews–my sis and Brother-In-Law decided to have two more after an 11 year break between the first 3!).

Take good care of you and your husband, eat healthy, live healthy and maintain constant medical care throughout the TTC and prenatal processes and relax–you’ve plenty of time.  Keep the faith and a win attitude (stress won’t help you here and can slow things down).

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Honestly find a really great doctor and just talk to them about it, I just switched doc’s in October and am SOOO lucky. She’s a friends doctor who happens to be a fertility specialist. She spent an hour and a half WITH me in the exam room it was amazing she went through my whole medical history with me and explained in detail how fertility works. I’m 34 and we want to have kids desperately but we’re just still not really ready yet and we want to be realistic about that. I’m for some reason convinced we’re going to have problems and because of my fears she just broke everything down. I have it written down at home so I’m doing this from memory but basically the reason 35 is such a significant number is because at one point it WAS an issue I think it has something to do with autism or some other form of disorder or disease but (and again I’m not remembering everything so forgive me for being half assed about it) basically 35 isn’t really the number to be concerned with now because the numbers are changing and research is changing etc. (I hope that makes sense)

If my memory is serving me correct basically 17 is your PEAK fertility point at that point your fertility drops by a certain percent each year. Personally I didn’t think it seemed that radical a drop but she said some women do. The percentage between 17 and 30 I think is something like 10-12% but again I’m doing this from memory. Now the BIGGER peak and the more concerned peak is at 40/41, i think it cuts to 30-40% of your fertility from when you were 17. Now that said she said when you’re 17 your chance of getting pregnant is 24%. She said most of her patients that try to have babies up until this point unless there are underlying issues (endometriosis, cysts etc) can and do have kids naturally until that age. After 41 is when fertilty treatments come into question right off the top, before you start trying. In other words if you’re a healthy 38 year old woman and want to have a baby she wouldn’t even prescribe you fertility medicine until you had been trying for at LEAST 6 months to a year without results. 

She also told me you can use an at home ovulation kit you basically use the ones that follow your whole month cycle and test to see how strong a reaction you have. I haven’t done it yet but she said do it for several months (because you can vary month to month) and that you want to see a nice strong solid reaction to the kit. She said IF you don’t see a solid reaction DO NOT freak out that just means the next step is to do the test through the doctors office to check your eggs and ovulation etc. It made sense it’s more of a prelim check to see if you should spend the money (because apparently they’re not the cheapest things).

I hope that makes sense and if you’re in the LA area and would like a referral please PM me and I’m happy to send you her info or PM me for any questions if this didn’t make sense!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh AND my Mum had 6 kids. I’m the oldest, she had me when she was 30 and she had my youngest brother at 43 so there you go!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would say don’t stress…to me that’s the biggest thing that helped us…i’ll be 31 in July and we started TTC in Feb and got preggo in March…

so if you aren’t even thinking about TTC until next year, don’t worry about it until next year…

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Just a little FYI- totally not true about a spinal needle over the age of 35.  We can opt for amnion or CVS but can turn it down as well–which have nothing to do with the spine.  That is a small needle that goes in through your abdomen to sample the amniotic fluid.  CVS was mildly painful and I hear that amnio is not really painful at all.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I am 30 and got pregnant on the first try ๐Ÿ™‚ and my mom had me at 41 and wasn’t even trying! So yeah, it’s totally possible to conceive easily after 30!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My mom had me at 36! fear not, it can be done. (it was natural conception)

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