Your age/partner’s age: 31 and (newly!) 42. I got my for-sure positive on his birthday
Baby #: long awaited #1!
Cycles trying: It took 9 cycles to get our first BFP, then we conceived on the first cycle post-loss
Loss/trouble conceiving history: We tried for 9 months (actively tracking/timing) before our first BFP. I miscarried at 6 weeks and a couple of days, the doctor strongly suspected a blighted ovum. We got the go-ahead to try again right away, and since we figured it would take awhile given our history, we decided to start with the first post-loss ovulation, which was 15 days after the start of the bleeding. It’s so weird, and I didn’t say it out loud, but I was so sure I was pregnant again. I had no reason to think it, and it’s total confirmation bias now, but I wasn’t especially surprised (though I was, of course, big-picture shocked that it happened so fast when it took SO MUCH WORK and time the first go-round).
Diagnosis or reason for loss/infertility if known: No diagnosis! My FSH and E2 came back fine, and we didn’t hit the one year mark, so no additional testing. A lot of more recent literature suggests that, with active tracking/trying, you’re considered “sub-fertile” after passing 6 months, so we fit right in there.
How far along are you: 4 weeks 0 days! According to the miscarriage risk calculator, the chances of not miscarrying as of today are 74.5%, so each day matters! That being said, other research has shown that miscarriage is highly dependent on when you implant…if you implant by day 9, it’s about 13%, compared to 82% for implantations that don’t happen until day 12 or later.
Due date: December 9! So excited that, if all goes well, we’ll have an excuse NOT to see our extended family members during the holidays lol.
Thanks SO MUCH for creating this group, and I hope we get a lot of people here. It’s still so early, but the stress this time versus the sheer blind happiness of the first time has been hard to navigate. I’m feeling better after good betas, but I know it’ll be an incredibly long wait for the ultrasound (I’m calling soon to get scheduled).