Pregnancy After Loss and/or Trouble Conceiving Support Thread

posted 10 months ago in Pregnancy
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

ROLL CALL

Your age/partner’s age: 31 and (newly!) 42. I got my for-sure positive on his birthday

Baby #: long awaited #1!

Cycles trying: It took 9 cycles to get our first BFP, then we conceived on the first cycle post-loss

Loss/trouble conceiving history: We tried for 9 months (actively tracking/timing) before our first BFP. I miscarried at 6 weeks and a couple of days, the doctor strongly suspected a blighted ovum. We got the go-ahead to try again right away, and since we figured it would take awhile given our history, we decided to start with the first post-loss ovulation, which was 15 days after the start of the bleeding. It’s so weird, and I didn’t say it out loud, but I was so sure I was pregnant again. I had no reason to think it, and it’s total confirmation bias now, but I wasn’t especially surprised (though I was, of course, big-picture shocked that it happened so fast when it took SO MUCH WORK and time the first go-round).

Diagnosis or reason for loss/infertility if known: No diagnosis! My FSH and E2 came back fine, and we didn’t hit the one year mark, so no additional testing. A lot of more recent literature suggests that, with active tracking/trying, you’re considered “sub-fertile” after passing 6 months, so we fit right in there. 

How far along are you: 4 weeks 0 days! According to the miscarriage risk calculator, the chances of not miscarrying as of today are 74.5%, so each day matters! That being said, other research has shown that miscarriage is highly dependent on when you implant…if you implant by day 9, it’s about 13%, compared to 82% for implantations that don’t happen until day 12 or later. 

Due date: December 9! So excited that, if all goes well, we’ll have an excuse NOT to see our extended family members during the holidays lol. 

Thanks SO MUCH for creating this group, and I hope we get a lot of people here. It’s still so early, but the stress this time versus the sheer blind happiness of the first time has been hard to navigate. I’m feeling better after good betas, but I know it’ll be an incredibly long wait for the ultrasound (I’m calling soon to get scheduled). 

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Sugar bee
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@lakelady5:  ha, I found the same article! I did see an article by an OB talking about why they do betas, and they said that strong/doubling betas are associated with lower miscarriage risk, but they didn’t cite any sources. I’m excited for you to get your results tomorrow. I forget, did they test your progesterone? I know you said you thought you’d need supplements. 

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Honey bee
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@lakelady5:  thanks for making this thread it’s nice to be able to support one another in this journey. So far I’ve been full of anxieties and stress so it will be nice to have some support! Congrats on your pregnancy, so sorry for your MC but happy to hear the good news! 

ROLL CALL

Your age/partner’s age: 35/37

Baby #: 1

Cycles trying: 2.5 years 

Loss/trouble conceiving history: MC at almost 6w in Dec 2018, then 3IUIs, 3 IVF retrievals, 1failed FET

Diagnosis or reason for loss/infertility if known: endometriosis, clotting issues, slight male factor 

How far along are you: 10w tmrw

Due date: Oct 29th

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@dianaj17:  congrats on your pregnancy! I followed your loss thread I’m so sorry you had to go through that but wishing you a happy & healthy pregnancy! 

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Sugar bee
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@Cheekie0077:  congratulations to you as well! I’ve always lurked on the IF boards, both because I wanted to know what the process looked like, but also because the wins are so joyous to see, even if it’s just an internet stranger. 

LL5, good luck with betas today! I hate that you have to wait so long to get them…I thought the next morning was bad. 

I’ve been feeling pretty good since my good news yesterday morning, but I also know it’s going to be a longggg 9 months. I’ve had a few spurts of very mild cramps. Last time, my early-on cramps were like, full-out bad period cramps. And logically, that didn’t matter, because implantation and all that happened normally, so it’s not like those early week-4 cramps were some sign of an impending miscarriage. But, given the loss, I’m SO nervous about any cramps at all. They’re like, a 1 on a scale of 1-10, and pretty sporadic. Logically, I know they’re normal. I also know that things like digestive issues and a full bladder can cause them. But does that stop my heart from racing every time I check the TP after I pee? NOPE. 

Also, I’m feeling nauseous today, which seems WAY too early. It’s 4 weeks 1 day. My hcg surely isn’t high enough for this yet. 

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Sugar bee
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@lakelady5:  I’d say left is darker, but it also looks like the lighting is different in each which makes it tricky. I have the same problem when I take pictures in my bathroom…I can snap pictures seconds apart, and they look wildly different. It’s a huge problem when I would use Premom to take photos of my OPKs…I could take two pictures in a row, and get two different numbers.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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@lakelady5:  thanks so much for your reply! It was a long time coming and I am very anxious. I had to be put on blood pressure meds because it’s through the roof from anxiety but it is what it is. And btw the test on the left is way darker! The lines look great! 

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@dianaj17:  weird that with my MC I had a lot of period like cramps like you but with this pregnancy I have very few and it’s a different feeling. Are you getting another beta done after the first one you had? 

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Sugar bee
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@Cheekie0077:  sorry to hear about the blood pressure. Pregnancy after subfertility and loss, so major kudos to ANYONE in your shoes who manages to make it through each day without being a total basketcase. 

My first beta was 33 at 11 DPO and my second was 106 at 13 DPO, so no more unless we have some complications/reason to worry. The limbo between getting the second one back yesterday and our first appointment is only 4 weeks, but it feels like 4 years. And so far, this is shaping up to be similar to your experience…I had a very full bladder earlier, so since then, super minimal cramps. Like, if I weren’t actively fixated on my uterus for all of my waking hours, I’d never notice them. 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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@dianaj17:  LOL oh I am a total basket case! But I try to hide it well. I think my husband is worried about me because I will feel okay for a little bit but then the anxiety creeps in hardcore and I can’t shut it off. I think I will feel slightly better once I get into the second trimester. Your betas were great! When is your first u/s? 

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