Pregnancy After Loss and/or Trouble Conceiving Support Thread

posted 10 months ago in Pregnancy
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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@dianaj17:  that’s a lovely name! Timeless and great for both a child and an adult. We’ve both thought it was a girl from the beginning because this pregnancy has felt different, but who knows!! I have my cardiology appointment this weekend which makes me nervous but it’s great that I’ve been able to get such a quick appt and fingers crossed it shows everything is fine. It will be a huge relief to know! A nerve wracking week coming up with that appt, our scan, and a slightly out of whack thyroid I’m hoping is normalising, so I’ll be relieved to get past this stage 😊

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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@DogsAndWine:  Congratulations on your daughter! I’m glad you were able to birth vaginally. I don’t blame you for a second for opting for an epi! I have always joked that the instant I pass through those L&D doors, I want that epidural lol. I will try to tough it out for as long as I can but am not above medications to make the whole thing more bearable!

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@Cheekie0077:  Congratulations!! What a beautiful little boy!! 

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@morecookiesplease:  Congratulations momma!! I’m so sorry things didn’t go the way you had planned but I’m so glad your little one is here and healthy! (I thought I had commented but I couldn’t find my response, so ignore me if this is a double post)

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@marriedbliss:  Holy, you have a big week coming up!! Let us know how your cardio appointment and scan go! Fingers crossed for you. 

AFM – I am now 18 + 2 (crazy, right??) and I have my next prenantal appt on Friday. I had to re-do the genetic testing bloodwork so hopefully he’ll have those results on Friday. He will also be referring me for my anatomy scan, so I cannot WAIT to get that booked! 

I had an eye exam last week and discovered that my current RX is too strong (thank you pregnancy hormones) so that may have a lot to do with my headaches. Regular chiro treatments and ensuring I don’t overdo it & take lots of ‘eye breaks’ when on the computer or watching TV, my headaches have gotten much better! I still get them regularly but they go away a lot easier and I feel a lot more like myself these days! I *think* I felt some flutters last night so I will be paying VERY close attention to my stomach the next few days!

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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@dianaj17:  As if your almost 36 weeks! How did that happen??? Your pregnancy is going musch faster than mine, although the last few weeks have gone by fairly quickly for me too. I’m sorry you’re feeling uncomfortable now 🙁 Hopefully that discomfort is short lived and baby pops up a little just to relieve the pressure for the next couple weeks! 

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Busy bee
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@Charliejeorge:  thanks friend! It’ll be a week for sure, but looking forward to getting it all over with and hopefully a smooth rest of pregnancy! Due to my thyroid condition they’ve organised extra growth scans at 28 and 32 weeks, as well as the standard 36 week one, so I’ll be lucky to see baby more times! 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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@marriedbliss:  Oh, thats a big silver lining, if I ever saw one!! 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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@Charliejeorge:  good luck today! Fingers crossed for a great report. Do you get to find out the sex of the baby with the genetic testing?

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@marriedbliss:  extra ultrasounds are such a silver lining! Enjoy every peek at your baby! My practice keeps them to a minimum so that they don’t have to worry if you suddenly need a bunch towards the end, and I haven’t seen our baby’s face (and even then, it was 2D) since 20 weeks. I was on the fence about one of those 3D ones, then the ship sailed on that, and when we had our scare at 30 weeks he refused to turn his head away from my spine so she couldn’t snap a cute consolation prize shot…we just got to see random body parts. Now I’m DYING to see what he looks like! 

 

AFM, 36+1 today. WILD. More wild is that I could still have 5 weeks left lmao. On the one hand, it’s hard to imagine making it 4-5 more weeks with all this increased pressure/cramping (especially at night), on the other hand, I know the odds are we will, so I’m just taking it day by day. The family has placed their bets…mom and husband think 11/24 (37+5, which is when I was born, they think he’s eager to join the party), I think 11/27 (last day of real college football, it’d be ironic if DH had to miss out due to labor) but also 12/10, and my sister/dad/grandma think around 39 weeks. I told them that the joke will be on all of us when I’m 41-42 weeks pregnant and we’re forcibly evicting him. 

Also, I have followed a small-medium account on TikTok since super early pregnancy, she was 2.5 weeks ahead of me, also with her rainbow boy. She had her baby yesterday and did the announcement to the song “Yellow” and I just cried. I know everyone in this thread, whether they’re here because of loss, infertility, subfertility, or a mix of multiple reasons, gets it. When you don’t know if it’s going to happen for you, it just all feels like such a miracle and utterly surreal. 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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@dianaj17:  Appointment went well, very quick haha. Baby’s heart rate was 135, last month it was 135-140. Genetic tests all came back below threshold, so all low risk and I have been referred for an ultrasound for about 10 days from now! Sadly our genetic tests don’t determine gender, we will have to wait for the ultrasound and hope LO cooperates! If they don’t, I’m going to order a Sneak Peek test. I wanted to get one around 10 weeks, but DH wanted to wait… like a psychopath sealed

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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@Charliejeorge:  yay for a healthy baby! I remember vividly the relief I felt when our genetic testing came back. Good luck with the anatomy scan next week. Our tech used “unremarkable” to describe everything and I’ve never felt so relieved that our kid was boring and ordinary, lol. 

 

I had the realization today that while it’s VERY unlikely, this could theoretically be our last baby-free weekend! My birth class (the hypnobirthing pack by The Positive Birth Company, it’s pretty decent for how cheap it is) just did the bit on the “due period” versus due date, and how anytime between 37-42 weeks is fair game (with 40-41 being the most common for first timers). I suspect we still have at least 2-3 weeks (probably more like 4), but hey, I’m down for any excuse to lounge around and be lazy. I slept in today and it was lovely! I’m just trying to soak in every baby kick. I know I’ll miss them so much. Even the big rib-hitting kicks that sort of hurt. I knew I’d love them, because people go on about how great they are at length, but man are they even better than I thought. We hope/plan to have another baby in a few years, but we all know not to take anything for granted/assume it’ll come easily, so I want to SAVOR it. 

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Sugar bee
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We had an eventful day! Currently 36+5, and baby was pretty quiet all morning yesterday. I was close to calling L&D, but a glass of milk got him going for a solid hour. He was then pretty quiet at night too, but with enough (lighter than usual) moves that I didn’t panic. Normally, he’s full-on alien with my morning coffee and then after dinner. 

This morning, he was even quieter during coffee time. I had a meeting I had to go to from 8-9:30, so I got set up early with a diet coke and a cupcake. I got a few wiggles, but not much else, so we called and then headed in. He’s fine, and his BPP was perfect (I got to see a very quick shot of his horror-movie face, ha, ultrasounds face-on are so creepy), but he is breech again. He was in the perfect position last week. Google says it’s unlikely he’ll turn again, and with my anxiety, I don’t know if I want him to…I know it’s not normal for them to be cartwheeling around this much so late on, and I worry about cord issues now if he keeps flipping. I read up on ECVs, which I was already nervous about, and saw on Evidence Based Birth that we fit several of the “less ideal” characteristics, so I’m leaning pretty hard no now. Thank goodness my weekly appointment is tomorrow!

I wasn’t necessarily prepared for this later-pregnancy anxiety, especially when weeks 24-34 were mostly so good! 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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@dianaj17:  oh no! That sounds stressful, and upsetting too as he had previously flipped to a good position! I hope you can get some answers in your appointment today… 

Post # 477
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Sugar bee
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Well, we are tentatively booked in for December 2, so two weeks from tomorrow. He’s VERY breech, ha, and his butt has started to settle down into my pelvis. We decided against an ECV…my practice has you get an IV and epidural, and I HATE needles (which was my driving motivation for a water birth), so the thought of having to go through all of that for not-great-odds (50% max, and given that I’m a first timer with a frank breech biggish baby and anterior placenta, we’re not in the highest success rate group) just to end up with a SECOND massive needle in my spine/anesthesia sounds less than ideal. They’re hopeful that he may be in the small percentage of babies who turn on their own late in the game, since he most likely flipped just a few days ago, so we’ll check at the next two appointments and then do an ultrasound the morning of 12/2 just to make sure, and cancel it/go back to waiting naturally if he flips. They signed off on the whole gentle c-section plan: second support person, clear drape, soft music/not much talking, immediate and uninterrupted skin to skin through the recovery period, etc., so it’s the best-case scenario for a cesarean birth. 

Normally I’ll write out a little blurb here because it’s so fun to go back and look, but this has been pretty all consuming, lol. I’m still sleeping pretty decently, my mobility is definitely going down but I’m still more nimble than I thought I’d be at 37 weeks. I’m STARVING and eat constantly, but this week was the first in awhile I hadn’t gained weight. Baby is definitely a LOT quieter in this position. Mostly, we’re just super excited to meet him and have him here safely. The anxiety has definitely picked up in these past few weeks, now that we’re so close to the end. I’m so excited for him to be on the outside where there’s not all this pressure on me and me alone to determine if something is wrong. 

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Busy bee
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@dianaj17:  a planned c section sounds like the best, least stressful option. I think I’d also take one if I was in your situation. There’s no point having a needless epidural and IV if it might not even work, and it sounds like your hospital has a great set up for c sections. Eeeek you know the actual due date and it’s in 2 weeks!!

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Busy bee
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We had our 20 week scan today which went well. Baby growing well and it’s another BOY! I’m surprised but happy he’s looking healthy. Now we need to think of a name because we were all set on he being a she 😅

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Bumble bee

Looks like I’ve missed a lot of updates here!!

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@Charliejeorge:  I’m glad your appt went well! Let us know how the ultrasound goes! I hope baby cooperates! The 20w ultrasound is such an amazing experience!

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@dianaj17:  oh my! You’ve been through a lot lately! I hope you’re doing okay! Hopefully baby decides to flip again! If he doesn’t, it sounds like you have a great care team for a c section! You got this!! The worst part of a section for me was going through labor and then ending up needing an unplanned c section anyways. It’s good that you have time to prepare and know what is coming!

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@marriedbliss:  ahh congratulations!! There are so many boys in this group! That’s great that baby is looking good! Good luck picking a name!

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Sugar bee
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@marriedbliss:  congratulations on the BOY! We are such a boy heavy group, Charlie must be having a girl! I feel you on the boy names, we had like 8 billion girl names and it took us so long to come up with a single boy name we liked okay.

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@morecookiesplease:  I’m feeling soooo much better about it, especially after reading through some experiences here. I hope you’re feeling better and settling in well. 

 

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