Post # 1
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Worker bee
While I was scrolling through the Bump app today I came across this article about Melissa Rauch’s pregnancy accouncement after a recent miscarriage.
https://www.glamour.com/story/actress-melissa-rauch-announces-pregnancy-and-reflects-on-miscarriage
I feel like I could have written every. single. word. of this article myself, it really hit home. I am currently 19 weeks pregnant after miscarrying at 12 weeks in February. I was so lucky to get pregnant again right away, and so far, I’ve had a healthy pregnancy. I haven’t found the words to express how grateful I am for this pregnancy yet. That being said, it hasn’t been easy and there are so many mixed emotions that I feel on a constant basis that I don’t think anyone that hasn’t been through this would understand. It’s always comforting to read sentiments that validate these mixed emotions, so I thought I’d share. Even if you’ve never experienced a miscarriage (I truly truly hope it stays that way!!) it’s a great read to promote awareness around fertility sensitivity. 💜💜💜💜
Post # 2
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Honey bee
snowflake1234 : Someone just recommended the podcast IVFML to me. We haven’t miscarried, but we’ve been trying for awhile and I’m getting worried about hitting the point of tests and treatments. Honestly, it explained miscarriage so well, that I felt like I could understand more than I ever have previously. The last episode probably hit it the best. I highly recommend it!
Post # 3
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Honey bee
snowflake1234 : BTW – Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months <3
Post # 4
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Busy bee
Hoping that the rest of this pregnancy goes beautifully for you!
Post # 5
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Worker bee
SeaOfLove : i will be looking into it! Thanks so much for the rec. fingers crossed for you 💜💜
MrsWolfaith : thanks so much
Post # 6
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Honey bee
snowflake1234 : Thank you, dear ❤❤
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery
This was wonderful, thank you for sharing.
MC can be such a dark place, filled with unwarrented shame; I think it’s so important the more people share their experiences.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
DrunkInLove : I completely agree. no one talks about it and when I miscarried in January I was completely shocked at how horrific it was, I was woefully unprepared for the physical and emotional pain so I always make sure I share my story as horrendous as it was.
This article was brilliant, thanks for sharing 🙂
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: March 2017 - Outside in Paris
When I miscarried I was surprised how many people said it had happened to them. I never knew.
Post # 10
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Worker bee
DrunkInLove : such a sad truth. With my MMC people ended up finding out just due to circumstances, and I found it easier to be around the people that knew. Even if we didn’t talk about it, I knew they wouldn’t be asking me about our plans to start a family etc., which in itself was a relief, and hearing others’ experiences with infertility/MC also helped me to get to a point that I was able to stop blaming myself.
thumperbear : that is great that you’re sharing your story. I think it’s important because it helps you/others who have been through it realize you’re not alone. And also raises awareness, like the article said, so people stop being so darn nosy about our reproductive plans! I was totally one of those people a few years back who would (innocently enough, and not meaning any harm obviously) ask people about their baby plans. Once my sister had a CP, and then struggled with secondary infertility i realized how hurtful it would be for her to hear those questions. Now after miscarrying myself, I try and understand that people aren’t ask to upset me, but I wish everyone would be a little more senesitive to the issue.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
I shared that article on my Facebook yesterday. I absolutely could have written it myself. I miscarried my first pregnancy just before the second trimester, and was fortunate enough to get pregnant with my son 3 months later, the first month we started trying again. He is now almost 2 and I just found out last week that I’m pregnant again. It’s amazing how the fear comes right back. I was quite secretive about my loss for a while but not anymore. More people need to talk about it so those going through it have the support. Best wishes for a healthy remainder of your pregnancy!
Post # 12
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Helper bee
This was a terrific article, thanks. I’m currently 8w4d after my (only) two prior pregnancies both ended in miscarriage. Everything looked perfect at my scan yesterday, so maybe – maybe – I’ll start to believe in this pregnancy in a few months, if I stay pregnant that long. But right now I’m still waiting for the other shoe to drop. It’s a common experience, but a lonely one.
Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
It was great that she wrote that and it rings so true to me. I miscarried in August 2015 at 11 weeks. When I did get pregnant again I think I held my breath the whole 9 months until she came out and was in my arms. I still think about the baby we lost. However if we’d had that one we wouldn’t have the baby we do now, which is just incomprehensible to me. My rainbow baby is now 5 months, but my miscarriage is something that will always stick with me.
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery
thumperbear : cameobride : It’s so true, no one talks about it. But when we went through it, at 11 weeks, so very close to going fully public with the news, I was shocked how many people told me/us that they had been through the same thing. While it certainly made me feel less alone, it’s sad it takes a tragedy for people to share their own.
I have not been shy in talking about it (in most circumstances); the stigma that a woman is somehow damaged or at fault will only go away if people normalize the conversation.
Now, at nearly 7 weeks, I’m beside myself with worry at every cramp and twinge. I just want that baby in my arms–until then, I think I’ll just be holding my breath. How unfair that it steals the joy of future pregnancies, too.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
I read this article a few days ago and every.single.word reasonated with me. I plan on writing something very similar when I do my FB annoucement.
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