Post # 1
In january 2010, i got off of bc after like 5 years. I got pregnant that May then lost it in June. Every since then we have been ttc so hard. Failing month after month is really making me feel worthless. I cry everytime my period comes. I know many other people are going through this too. So I want to know, do you think something is medically wrong with me? Should i visit a doc? Or would they turn me away since it hasn’t been a year? I thought that since I was able to get pregnant the first time, then nothing could be medically wrong. I’m at my wits end now. My fiance suggested we do something different. He says I should start charting my temp. I really dont want to mess with that everyday though. Ugh. But I guess since nothing else is working I’ll try that…
Post # 3
Start charting. I had a stillborn baby and it was hard getting my period every month. After less than 3 months of charting, I was pregnant. You may think it’s a lot of work, but it’s worth it.
Post # 4
I’d say try whatever you have in your resources even if it is some extra work.
I think visiting a doctor is fine but they’d probably recommend that you try everything first before referring you to a specialist or doing much testing since it’s been less than a year.
Post # 5
You may want to check out the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. I know that taking your temperature may seem annoying, but you get used to it really quickly. Even if you don’t want to do that the book will help you better understand your body.
Post # 6
I miscarried 3 summers ago, and my period was really irregular for the first 3 months. When my Fiance and I decided to start trying again, I used those clear blue ovulation sticks, and the minute it said I was ovulating we got busy! MAybe give them a try, they worked for me.
Post # 7
Another charter here! We actually are using it to prevent pregnancy right now, but I know so much more about my body it is ridiculous. By charting, you will know when the right time to try is, and if God forbid there is something underlying, it can help point out exactly what and where the issue is. (i.e. a hormone may be out of whack, etc).
Def. get the book, Taking Charge of your Fertility!
Also, I’ve always heard it can take a year and sometimes more to regulate after BC… Everyone is different. Start with charting, then, if you do need to see a Dr. you can bring them with you so you already may know what you’re looking at.
I know some women who were even prescribed fertility meds but tried charting first and that did the trick! 🙂
Post # 8
I think you should chart. If something is wrong your doctor will have more information to help diagnose you. If something isn’t wrong, you’ll know soon enough.
Post # 9
I miscarried in August and just found out yesterday that I am pregnant again, so don’t give up! I too would sit on the bathroom floor and cry every time my period showed up. I used Clear Blue OPK for a few months to gauge when I ovulate and this month we put the sticks away and tried to relax about it (easier said than done, I know) and it worked!
I was never into charting, but OPKs really helped me figure out when the best time was – it was consistent for me every month – and to atleast know we were doing everything “right”.
It will happen for you, just hang in there!
Post # 10
@karmalkween: I really appreciate the support from you all. When my period came, I was so mad at my body b/c it had tricked me. This month seemed like it would be THE month due to so many “symptoms” happening to me that I had never experienced before. I’m a bit cooled down today. I’m trying to get back into the BD mood again :/ Failing month after month hurts even worse when you work with pregnant people. Ugh I hate my job now lol. Anyways, thanks!
Post # 11
How old are you? Generally it’s recommended to go to see a doctor sooner if you are older. My sister miscarried and got pregnant three months later.
Post # 13
You have tons of time, don’t stress so much! (Assuming you don’t have a medical condition you have disclosed.) I doubt the doctor would turn you away, but my understanding is they won’t really recommend drugs/testing etc until a year has passed at your age. But, of course, I’m not a doctor. If you were 40, I’d suggest you’d go sooner but even at a young, healthy age such as yours it will take time for you to get pregnant. I’m sure it’s hard but try not to stress so much.