Ok, I can’t say because obvs I’m not pregnant yet, but I can say this as someone who recently moved back near family after being on my own with Darling Husband for the last 5 years. (We have also had roommates since being married, so it’s not necessarily a roommie thing):
There is literally no amount of money you could pay me to allow an able-bodied parent to live with me right now, let alone while pregnant.
Nope, no way. And I actually have a really good relationship with both parents. Love them, but heck no.
It’s been a HUUUUGE adjustment just having them down the street. The first few months I was back (until really recently actually, and things had to come to a bit of a head), they wouldn’t leave me alone. It was really suffocating, and I didn’t even live with them. They felt entitled to know what I’m doing regularly, details about my job/business, and they wanted me to visit or do some rando social activity what felt like all the darn time! Basically, they wanted the relationship they had with 15-20 year old Lemondrop, and I had to maintain boundaries until they figured out how to have a relationship with 27 year old Lemondrop that didn’t make me want to strangle them all. lol.
My mom means super well, and I’m sure your mom will too, but there are a lot of things you will probably want to figure out. For example, do you really think your mom would defer to you on areas where you might differ for her in terms of the baby? Like discipline, food/snacks, exposure to tv, etc? (Mine definitely wouldn’t). Do you want the constant well-meaning but very intrusive advice? It’s bound to happen.
Also, in my opinion, pregnancy will be a really special time for both Darling Husband and I. I want that time to be as special as possible, and I want the time to bond over waiting for the baby. And heck! The baby will be a huge adjustment too, why throw in another one? And is it fair to expect your Darling Husband to have to be around his Mother-In-Law 24/7? Even if their relationship is good, that’s a lot to ask him to do if it’s not for caregiving purposes… (My Mother-In-Law is pretty great, and I max out at about 3 days at her house)
Why not have them move into a different house somewhere nearby? Maybe before the baby is born so they can establish their own life – hobbies, work, volunteering, friends, whatever – so they don’t over obsess on you and the baby. That way she’s still around to help, but you’re not stuck in 6 months posting “OMG, my mom won’t leave me alone, Darling Husband is ready to kill her, she’s steamrolling my baby decisions, what do i DO!?” haha.
Obviously, take this with a grain of salt, it’s just my experience…