(Closed) Pregnancy and introversion

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I can totally relate! I was like that while pregnant and still am 3 months after having my daughter. 

Im a believer in nesting with a newborn especially with the cold weather. We do get out but not enough for some as I can still be bombarded with questions and concerns.

Just stay the course and do what you need to make it through. Peoole will just have to deal since its your body and your baby. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am not pregnant, but I suspect I will be exactly this way when I am. 

I’m this way after I move and people keep coming to visit, I can’t imagine how much worse it will be when everyone wants to give me advice and hammer me with questions.

If you need to unplug the phone to maintain your sanity, do it for sure.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have never been pregnant, but I have to tell you… I am SO guilty of some of those questions. Though I will probably be the same way you are when I am about to give birth. Hang in there Mama!! Just think soon all those same people will tell you how to raise your new baby!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I wish I could just give you a hug. I am SO there. I have a coworker who points at my belly every. single. day. and talks baby talk about how cute it is and I just want to crawl in a hole and die. I’m tired of the questions, I’m tired of the small talk with strangers, I’m tired of the personal intrusion, I’m just tired. Part of me feels like just breaking the fingers of the next person who grabs my belly without asking. This is an aspect of pregnancy I was totally unprepared for.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We have only told a few family members at this point, and I’ve already felt a little violated by some of their questions, like, “were you trying?!” Uhm, that’s not really any of your business. 

I’m planning on telling my coworkers next week and dreading it already. It is going to be non-stop with them. It’s nice that they care and are interested, but I don’t want to hear your stories and I don’t want to tell you what we’re thinking of naming him/her, etc. Just thinking about alllllll of the questions I’m going to have to answer makes me want to scream. I’m here to work, not to socialize, leave me and the baby alone pleeeaseeee πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re only at 10 weeks and I already feel the way you do based on the very few people we’ve told. We got married less than a year ago and I’m still reeling from the wedding planning portion when everyone chimed in with their unsolicited opinions and everyone wanted to make it seem like it was their wedding day too.

I hate the questions about how I’m feeling and how I’m doing. If I tell the the truth, they patronize me by saying things like “Oh, it can’t be that bad.” I end up just saying, “I feel great.” Period. I have only a small bump right now, but when I get a bigger bump, I don’t plan to have anyone but Darling Husband and medical professionals touch it.

We haven’t discussed our birth plan or our plans for our children yet, but pre-TTC, we already had family members chiming in left and right about what is appropriate and what worked for them. We even had people say they had to be the FIRST person to know about the BFP and they weren’t even close family members.

I’m already worried that post-baby, people are going to want to come over and visit, which can be fine, but they’ll want to hold the baby and make small talk the whole time, when all I want is to sleep and recuperate.

I don’t know but I don’t recall ever asking pregnant women anything aside from “How do you feel?” or “How are you?” I certainly wouldn’t comment on her size or labor.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I was exactly like that through out both my pregnancys.

You need to do what is best for you. At first I felt bad being and feeling this way but for my second pregnancy I didn’t care and I felt so much more at ease.

When my second baby came home I made it clear to everyone that you had to call before coming over because when I had my first son I was so overwhelmed with visitors. 

Goodluck and remember to do what’s best for you and the baby:)

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I can relate. I am a teacher and the other day when I was on a phone call with a parent she asked me if I was planning to breast-feed!!!!!!! (I am, but SHEESH!) I don’t mind the comments about my belly or people asking me how I’m feeling, but I don’t like it when people ask me about things like going back to work (yes, I am, because I have to, not because I want to be away from my child), or stuff like that. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Haha now that I am showing through my scrubs very obviously, a lot of random patients will ask me detailed things about the baby – if I know the sex, what the name is, where I’m delivering, how many kids I want.. lol it gets a bit much and I am usually a pretty open person. Hang in there! πŸ™‚ Hugs to you

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Mrsluckywife:  This is definitely one of the things I dread about getting pregnant.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I am not pregnant, but I completely understand what you mean. People wear me out in general, and I can’t imagine having to constantly field questions from them. I found this chart to be funny. Maybe you can send it to all your nosy Nancies. 

 

A Guide to Understanding Introverts.

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