Post # 32
Umm… almost EVERYONE has asked us if this was planned. We’ve been married for 2.5 years but we haven’t really made a secret of the fact that we were in no hurry for kids so I guess we really shocked a lot of people. But like, I feel like they all already know the answer (no, it was not). So why ask?
Post # 33
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
@Tatertot2003: I 100% agree that sometimes the answer to “was it planned?” is complicated. So it’s just really annoying. I also find it a tough question to answer when it’s co-workers asking because although I had been with my company for almost 8 years, I literally had *just* started my new position when we got our BFP. So in general, I feel weird answering the question but I also hate lying about things like that so I just ramble on and on that it ‘kinda’ was -__-
@CorgiTales: I think the fact that you had been vocal about not planning for kids soon makes it even worse that people are asking you. It’s almost like they are expecting to hear “no and we’re devastated about it”. So rude!
Post # 34
Let’s see. I had one comment that I was growing wide. Another that I was so small to start and now I’m huge. Someone else was like “you’re due any day now aren’t you?” and of course I replied “no still 9 more weeks” which was followed by “wow your belly is so big. Good luck.” And then I think my favorite so far was the “you’re gonna need a c-section that girl is looking huge.” I love how people just want to boost my self-esteem 🙂
Post # 35
someone mentioned doctors, but I think they’re *supposed* to ask if it was planned vs. a surprise b/c then they’ll know if you’ll need special support (emotional or even medical like making sure you are taking prentals since you most likely werent before, etc.)
Post # 36
I went into a walmart one day at 36 weeks and had TWO different staff members stop me and say, “If you don’t mind me askingm how old are you?”. I look young, but I’m 24. The first was a greeter who was fairly obviously a recent immigrant so I wrote it off as cultural differences instead of rudeness, but I was totally floored when the next guy asked 10 min later. I also had parents come in at the school I was teaching at in June who gave me really dirty looks until the VP introduced me as their child’s teacher. People are really rude. -_-