Post # 1
So I’m about 8 months pregnant now (holy cow!) and had my very first stranger touching my belly without my permission experience yesterday. And not in a walking up, cooing about my belly and putting her hand on me way, which might have been okay.
Darling Husband and I were driving back from NC yesterday (to PA) caravanning with Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law and we stopped to pick up lunch from a BBQ place. The place was PACKED, so we got it to go, and on our way out the door an employee grabbed my arm, made me stop, slapped her hand on my stomach, and asked/told me I was having a little girl. Mind you, this place is packed, she’s an employee, her hands are all up on my personal space, and she’s making us hold up foot traffic.
I’d made it to 34 weeks before someone who wasn’t a friend or family member touched my stomach, and I was so surprised by it that I didn’t react…but my mildly over-protective husband snapped at her to “get (her) hands off of (his) wife” and pushed her hand off of me before pulling me out the door. He was fuming about it in the car, too. He was way angrier than I was…I was still very much “what just happened?”
I’m sure it wouldn’t have bothered a lot of people, but I’m putting it into the “Why do people think they have the right just because I’m pregnant?” notebook, along with judging my (SINGLE!) daily cup of coffee or occasional half glass of wine, dyeing my hair, having a turkey sandwich, or god forbid wearing a bikini at the beach. (“Aren’t you worried about burning your baby???” –not with the SPF 110 I’ve slathered on three times today thankyouverymuch.
Is anyone else really dumbfounded by having your body and choices on open season just because you’re pregnant? How do you respond to strangers touching you or lecturing you on your life choices?
Post # 3
There are just SO many layers of social convention and gender study to be pulled apart here. It’s just one of those truly messed up, “my body is not my own”, parts of being a woman.
This artilce from Mommyish is a personal favorite:http://mommyish.com/pregnancy-health/stfu-parents-the-dangerous-cocktail-of-discussing-alcohol-and-pregnancy-on-facebook-546/
Post # 4
Saw your post about this on our month board, but yeah, you know I find it appalling that suddenly every choice you make with YOUR OWN body is open season for judgement by others when you’re pregnant. Why can’t people just mind their own business and worry about their own kids? I don’t get it.
Oh and if someone did that to me, I don’t think I’d need Darling Husband, pretty sure I’d shove them back myself instinctively. 😛
Post # 5
@Mrs Sarah McK: You can’t eat TURKEY?! And the sunshine and burning baby may be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.
Post # 6
@WillyNilly: Deli turkey, or any deli meat, because it might carry the bacteria listeria, which can cause problems if you’re pregnant. You’re supposed to heat the deli meat until steaming before eating it.
@OohShiny: Thanks for sharing that article. I haven’t, won’t, and wouldn’t post anything on FB about what I have and haven’t done during this pregnancy…ever since I was chided by my 15 year old male cousin on a FB post praising a particularly delicious cup of coffee I had one morning.
@PandasWifey: Yeah, I really can’t imagine going up to a pregnant stranger and touching them without permission or lecturing them about what they’re doing (unless they’re snorting lines at the bar or something). I don’t understand pregnant women being open season.
Post # 7
It’s just too bad you didn’t have the chance to reach out and rub her stomach back!
Post # 8
That is so creepy!!! I would be totally freaked out. But then again…I get freaked out when family touches my belly for too long.
I actually had a woman I work with sit next to me in a meeting, reach down and lift my leg to UNCROSS them…she told me it was bad for the baby. I just looked at her and said “I have never heard that” moved my chair away and crossed my legs again.
Some people are SO weird!!!
Post # 9
Oh my god…creepster! I don’t want strangers touching not-pregnant me, much less heavily pregnant me. I’ll probably slap anyone who does it.