(Closed) Pregnancy and sex…

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@roxy821:  I, too, would like to know when the pregnancy sex gets amazing. Darling Husband can’t keep his hands off of me, but I’m simply just not in the mood. In fact, I don’t want to be touched…AT ALL! Like you said, sex is uncomfortable and leaves me feeling like nothing should be going on down there, so I try to avoid it & hope that Darling Husband understands.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@roxy821:  With Dirty Delete we did like a spooning position on our side. I always felt wierd being on top. Otherwise Darling Husband was on top, but held himself up on his arms. We had relations all trhough that pregnancy

This time around (almost 12 weeks) we rarely have sex. Once I get out of the first trimester maybe things will pick up, by my desire is super low right now (it may have to do more with worrying about another MC).

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

uhmm i cant really say anything because when i was pregnant i had NO sex drive AT ALL and it was horrible because Fiance loved me being pregnant but i wasnt feeling it, we officially stopped having sex when i was 6m. We had to resort to other things lol

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Is anyone else really shocked with how into you your Darling Husband is? I find it shocking, and sort of awesome because it’s so surprising!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Going into tmi territory here but here is some advice (using a general “you” here not talking just to the OP):

With all the extra blood in your system, you are going to feel tighter and this could make you uncomfortable, especially if you are having sex less often.  Use some lube, don’t just wait for your body to get wet on it’s own.  The wetness in pregnancy can be different than normal for some people, so using a synthetic method will probably feel better for you.

Bring a vibrator into the equation.  Vibrations not only feel very good on your clit or other areas, but they also help relax all the muscles around them.  You are pregnant, you might be worried all the time (we all are pretty much!), so the extra relaxing and calming of your clenching muscles will help a lot.

Extra foreplay!  Your Darling Husband is going to have to get creative here!  You might not like the same things you liked before, or you might be uncomfortable doing those things (especially if say you liked rougher sex before).  Try talking a little bit more than you used to and sensual touching.  Describe your fantasies to each other, even if you do not think you want to actually do it ever.  Feed off each other and touch body parts you usually ignore- ears, neck, behind the knees, the hands, the small of the back are all very sensual places that can help relax you and make you feel good. Massaging helps too! If you previously liked things a little rougher, maybe you can roleplay doing that, but do it in a toned down way.

Also try laying on your back with pillows under your hips or back with your legs off the bed, then have him stand up and put it in.  This keeps all of the weight off of your stomach and he does not have to hold himself up (stressing him).  You can also see each other in this position and control how shallow or deep the penetration is.

Lastly- orgasms in pregnant *can* be more intense, but they can also feel like a bit of cramping.  Strive to enjoy sex or sexual encounters and not just go for the big O.  If you are relaxed and enjoying yourself, you are much more likely to have a positive experience and want to do it again and again! The more you do it, the more your body will accept it and the easier and more enjoyable it will be!

Good luck!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@roxy821:  Oh I talk to RL people about this, but I always see people putting (sorry tmi!) in their posts, so i figured I was supposed to as well lol.  I worked as a sex therapist for several years (dealing with everything from trauma to understanding fetishes to just how to work things out with your partner), so I am pretty open about this stuff.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

This might be because I am early in the pregnancy, but the orgasms are pretty intense and I have been having multiple every time. I have been um…masturbating more as well….:-/

From what I read, it is the second trimester. However, each woman is different. Some women have a drop in libido where as others have an increase.

Try spooning… I heard it is more relaxing and comfortable.

I just go naked….so not sure about the lingerie sorry.

and yes I am alittle shocked as to how the husband finds me so attractive right now (honestly I think I look gross!), he has been inititating alot more…I think it might be that he is extremely happy about being a father. I hope so at least haha!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Cady:  You also secrete different hormones and essences so you actually smell different.  It’s not something that you or your husband can detect, but it makes males instinctually super charged.  It is also the reason dogs (and some cats) will act differently (often more protective) of you when you are pregnant.  My dogs are totally on guard all the time LOL!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Schatzie821:  Weird, but interesting! haha

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