Post # 1
What has pregnancy done to your libido?
I am just going to be frank here and say that ever since I have been pregnant, Darling Husband and I have been doing it every. single. day. And we NEVER used to do that….we usually stayed around 3 or 4 times a week.
Has this happened to anyone else? Or has your sex drive decreased?
Post # 3
1st trimester KILLED my libido…. and even moreso made me incapable of following through when I did want to. lol
Now I definitley want to more often but that doesn’t always happen. Darling Husband works a pretty physically demanding job and lots of nights he’s asleep literally 60 seconds after his head hits the pillow…. and waking him up isn’t the easiest thing to do. lol
Post # 4
I have like zero sex drive since getting pregnant. We’ve maintained about once a week, but it’s really only because I feel bad for him. He never complains about it, but we used to have sex every 2-3 days, so I know he’d be up for more. I really hoped when 2nd trimester started I’d get some of my sex drive back, but so far no luck… boo.
Post # 5
@kiddosc: I can’t imagine! It’s weird how differently pregnancy affects people…I have been wanting it non-stop! As soon as I am in the mood I get this weird surge of energy! haha… 🙂
Post # 6
I think you’re in the minority here.
Darling Husband and I used to have sex every day. Once I got pregnant and started feeling uber sick, sex would actually make me have to vomit poor Darling Husband. I’m almost out of my first tri though and I’m starting to feel better so hopefully I’ll be able to kick it back up.
Post # 7
@mwitter80: I was like that through my 1st trimester with DS… I literally LIVED in the bathroom. By month 6 DS’s dad was BEGGING me to give him a break.
This go round hasn’t quite been like that, but I have some other neck/back issues too that I didn’t have then so it deters me. =/
Post # 8
@mwitter80: yes, I don’t really think our sex life was like this during the first trimester. in between weeks 7 and 9, i had the worst morning sickness and was constantly throwing up. Hitting 12 weeks was like magic for me in terms of nausea and energy.
Post # 9
I have been so sick (still even at 17 weeks) that it is hard to get in the mood, because I feel like vomiting all.the.time. I have also been hit with some dryness recently, which is completely unheard of for me, so that doesn’t help either … that being said we still maintain 1-2 times per week.
Post # 10
@MissDareDevil: I’m jealous of you. I really wanted to be one of those ready to pounce pregnant ladies, lol.
Once we get started I’m all for it and enjoy sex, but there’s just no motivation to get started.
Post # 11
Pregnancy has killed our sex life. Literally, it’s sad. We went from a few times a week to a few times a month. I almost never am in the mood, and he is still kind of freaked out by the baby in between us, even though he knows it’s safe. I also get really distracted when the baby moves while we’re having sex. I think my crazy hours have something to do with it too, as I started a new job right when I got pregnant and now I never see Darling Husband M-F before 10pm when I get home. By then I’m just wiped. I just can’t wait for non-pregnant sex.
Post # 12
We were more of a once a week couple before TTC (we’ve been together 10 years!). While TTC we increased our frequency a lot. Since being pregnant, the sex life has kinda gone down the tubes. A few factors though – I had a prior miscarriage and the first month of pregnancy I was sort of terrified of bleeding. Then, I got a yeast infection so had to abstain for like 2 weeks. Then my husband started working nights and I only see him on the weekends and he’s exhausted. So, yeah, we are more of a few times a month now. We have found intimacy in other ways and in a lot of ways, I think we are closer.
Post # 13
If Darling Husband had his way, we’d be doing it three times a day. I’d rather keep it to like 3 times a week. We compromise. Our sex life has stayed exactly the same before, during, and after pregnancy (well, a few weeks after).
Post # 14
In the 1st trimester I definitely didnt feel like it at all, but now at 20 weeks, we are back to our usual ways. but it has changed which positions work for us.. etc
Post # 15
haha. I think we’re the anomalies. Pregnancy has put my sex drive in OVER drive. Don’t get me wrong we were plenty healthy before but I want it now even more than before. My husband certainly isn’t complaining since most men go dry….
P.S. Even during first tri it was like this. hehe We’ve been more morning people just because he works night twice a week and I’m usually so tired in the evenings.
Post # 16
We used to pretty much 5-6 times a week…
but now with pregnancy its been about 3-4 times in 5 months. I have to be the worst wife ever. Its not that I am not in the mood either because my dreams have been very very vivid at times, there is just too much going on down there (secretion wise) that I feel so gross and nasty! 🙁