(Closed) Pregnancy Announcements on Social Media: still a thing? Did you? Will you?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Did you announcement your pregnancy on social media?
    Yes! It was a great way to share the news with everyone in our life : (92 votes)
    61 %
    No! It is a private event that we kept to ourselves and our close family/friends. : (51 votes)
    34 %
    I don't use social media : (7 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 46
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We did after our 12wk NT scan, a cute pic of our dogs messing around with paint-pink and blue paw prints everywhere. I draw the line at ultrasound photos though-too personal and I think they could be very triggering for someone dealing with loss or infertility. I’ll show them to close friends/family but do not plan to post any ultrasound photos on Facebook. I’m also not a fan of the naked newborn pics. Esp for girls, cover their chest please! 

    Post # 47
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    356 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We told all of our close family and friends first, then we did a FB annoucement. I am fairly active on social media and post most major life events (i.e. getting engaged, getting married, buying a house etc). 

    Post # 48
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

    I’m another who dislikes ultrasound pics online. Too personal! I also don’t like pee sticks, or any bare bellies. My cousin and her husband struggled with infertility and when they finally got pregnant, she made an album dedicated to each days’ BFP. It was….awkward to see.

    I did an announcement with our clothes and baby clothes on the line, and I have posted one bump pic because I was really excited. We’ve got family and friends all over the place, so this was the easiest way to tell everyone else that we’re not super close to but would be hurt if they didn’t know. Other than that, I am not posting a whole lot about this pregnancy and if I do put any baby pics up, they’ll be on a private group. My husband is very vocal about me not sharing lots about our kid(s) on social media. I’m sure I’ll have days where I just want to share with the world, but will have to hold back 😉

    Post # 49
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    When we get pregnant, I plan on announcing sometime after 12 weeks.  We have a lot of family and friends out of town or that we don’t get to see much, so it would be nice for them.  The people we are very close with will get the info in person or by phone call.  For us, it would just be a little FYI for those we don’t keep very close, but still care about and would be happy for us.

    Post # 50
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

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    gypsyqueen:  we Aldo have friends flung around the globe. We put up a cute photo. It had our ultrasound shot and a baby on board sign. We had told all our family and close friends already, this was more for the coworkers and friends we don’t see on the regular (I couldn’t find a way to tell people at work without feeling mega awkward.  So i did this and let the grapevine do the rest.  I told my superiors weeks before.)

    Post # 51
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’m not expecting but soon we will be TTC and we have talked about this.  We will share on social media, but we will wait probably until the halfway point in the pregnancy (and annouce the gender with the news we were expecting at the same time).  We would tell family and close friends before (obviously)- probably right away as if something were to happen and we miscarried we would go to them for console.  Definitely plan on posting pictures of our kids once they are born (with privacy settings so only my friends can see), only because much of our family will live out of state and it is much easier than emailing out photos or creating a separate webpage, which I don’t think I will have time for.  

    Post # 52
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Nope for me. I did a mass text to everyone I wanted to know. My FB has past coworkers, employers, friends of friends, family I don’t necessarily claim, etc. I’m not looking for likes on being pregnant.

    Edit: I’ll probably post an artsy belly shot on Instagram many months from now, but I don’t really use that account to communicate with people. I just love photos.

    Post # 53
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    People have 800 friends on Facebook!? That might be a different thing then. My Facebook is all friends, family, current coworkers (not everyone, just the ones I hang out with outside of work).  These are all people I’d go grab a coffee with on a day off. Or friends we wished lived close enough for a coffee. .. Skype coffee dates are just not as good. 

    If I had further connections on fb I might be more likely to keep the news off.  But this is our primary contact method with family overseas. 

    Post # 54
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    This is our fifth pregnancy with no babies so far. For me, ultrasound announcements are the worst. A friend has an EDD as #4 would have been, and it’s hard to see pictures of what our baby would have looked like at that exact same time.

    That being said, I’ve been pretty open about our struggles (posting mc articles on occasion), and I’ve gotten a lot of positive responses from other moms and dads who have had losses. Most people don’t have anyone to talk to or acknowledge their losses, and most people don’t have the benefit of forums.

    I’ll probably post something next week,  at about 14 weeks. I also have friends around the country and people who are rooting for us. I’m showing already, and the support and excitement of people I know has been helping me to get excited about this pregnancy.  Then there’s my vanity, and I don’t want people to just think I’m getting fat. I’m trying to stay positive.  

    The other losses were all before 7 weeks, so if anything goes wrong with this one, it will be from different problems, unrelated to the others. I don’t think of a FB announcement followed by a loss is a retraction, it’s a death. People post about losing family members all the time. It won’t make it hurt less, and honestly, with the losses, I was desperate for the opportunity to have it acknowledged. Even when people said insensitive things, it was worth it to find the people who “got it”. 

    Anyhow, that’s my take.  It’s such a personal decision, and I completely understand why some people choose not to share/share later. I still think, in the back of my mind, “If we make it to 14 weeks.”

    Post # 55
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    567 posts
    Busy bee

    I announced it on facebook/instagram but not with a picture of the pee stick.

    Post # 58
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    764 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    gypsyqueen:  Thank you, and I apologize if it seemed like I was responding to your post. I think that, as the parent, there are two ways of looking at pregnancy announcements followed by losses.  One is thinking about it as having to “undo” the announcement and the other as something that happened in addition to the announcement.  I didn’t announce the earlier ones because, statistically,  MCs are more likely to occur. For those,  I would have been in camp 1. Now I’m leaning to the second viewpoint. Most of my IRL and FB friends are pretty open about what’s going on in their lives, which helps. If it was all old high school, pinterest people, I’d probably wait. Neither is right or wrong, and hopefully none of us will have to deal with it during these pregnancies 🙂

    Post # 59
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian

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    Kacie209:  I have a friend who, throughout her first pregnancy did “Non-photo updates.” So she might post something like “Baby is the size of a canteloupe. I’m the size of a moose” or soemthing like that, because she didn’t want to post andy bump pictures. I thought it was really cute and different. Kept us updated but was on her terms. She is now pregnant with her second and never made an announcement, just a “Non photo update” when she felt like posting something. Good luck!

    Post # 60
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian

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    4littlekitties:  Just wanted to say good luck to you. Keep us updated. I truly hope in a few months you will post an update with your happy, healthy baby!

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