Post # 1
So, I found out I was pregnant on March 11. This is my first pregnancy.
I quickly joined whattoexpect.com, downloaded the app, etc etc.
Well, now I am wishing I hadn’t.
I get daily emails telling me what I SHOULD expect, what I should be going through right now…and honestly, I don’t feel pregnant at all.
I am getting up at 3 am every night to pee and I think my boobs are sore, but not really anything major…and yeah, that’s about it. So since I am not getting all of these symptoms, it has made me turn into a crazy person, googling “lack of symptoms at week 6…7…8” and of course I am finding either threads with women saying they have no symptoms either and everything is just fine or I find articles linking miscarriages to lack of symptoms.
I don’t have my first Dr appt until next Friday, the 12th.
I think I am in week 7-8 right now. I joined the November Babies boards on here but there are hardly any women posting that are pretty asymptomatic like me, so I find it more unsettling. I am trying to be positive and trust God…but it is just so nerve-wracking.
Lots of friends of mine said they never got sick, felt great during pregnancy and everything was just fine. My mom said she felt great with me, but my brother was a different story.
But none of this information is really helping me. Maybe I am experiencing a symptom right now….Emotional Roller Coaster!!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
What to Expect is notorious for being extremely alarmist. Ditch it. Get something like the Mayo Clinic Guide to Pregnancy instead.
And keep in mine that some people never have any pregnancy “symptoms” other than no period and an ever growing belly (which you are still quite far from needing to think about).
Post # 4
Hey hun, had to pop in and reply real quick to this. I think YES, absolutely sometimes books/apps can do more harm than good. I also downloaded the WTE app and sometimes pop into the “forums” to see what’s going on… and let me tell you, that’s a bad idea. Lots of people talking about concerns/bad stuff they are going through and it can bring you down. I sympathize with those going through hard times but sometimes it’s best to just stay off those things. Also, in the WTE book, they tell you not to read the chapters/sections on things unless you are experiencing them… as, like you said.. they can cause unwanted stress and anxiety.
As a fellow Nov mama I am literally feeling almost 100% normal. Sore boobs only to the touch. Not peeing any more frequently than I used to, don’t even get up during the night most nights. No MS. No cramping. Not tired. Not emotional. No bloating, constipation. No food aversions/smell aversions. I literally feel exactly like I did pre-pregnancy.
Remember, a missed period is a symptom. I work with 2 ladies that have both been recently pregnant and neither one had any MS or anything, like us. Both had perfectly healthy little ones.
Also, lots of people take the time to write/question when they DO have symptoms… not as much when they are MIA. It’s like going on a travel review website.. most people who have an AWESOME time, usually don’t take the time to write a review. Those who had a horrible time and hated the place, will take all the time in the world to write down every little detail they went through on their trip. I think this can really easily apply to pregnancy forums too!
I seriously feel what you’re going through – and I’m not telling you I have NO symtoms to make you feel better! I literally have none/virtually none. If i didn’t push on the front of my boobs every so often I wouldn’t notice they are tender at all and would be down to nada.
If you want, PM me! Maybe you and I can have a “symptom free” pregnancy private chat on FB or email to keep each other calm and sane though this! Next week we’ll have our appts and probably be wondering what all our worrying is for! Like you, some days I’m super positive and excited for my appt Monday, and other days I’m a total nervous wreck just waiting for something to go wrong… I feel you!
Post # 5
@StaceyA: I was actually just thinking of emailing you, and I saw this response! I really like your comparison about the travel websites. Makes sense.
I found this on Mayo Clinic which made me feel a bit better.
“A lack of nausea during pregnancy, however, isn’t necessarily a cause for concern. Some women simply might be immune to the effects of pregnancy hormones.”
So maybe we are just pregnancy super heros? I am anxious to hear how your first appoinment goes! Keep me posted!
Post # 6
I had very few pregnancy symptoms early on and I just avoided pregnancy books. Especially What to Expect, because I hear people either love it or hate it and I figured I would hate it.
Every pregnancy is different. Try not to worry. 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
@birdie724: I had nausea for about 1 week, in week 9, and it was terrible, but other than that the nausea was infrequent and never severe.
Post # 8
@birdie724: I kind of hate “What To Expect.” I find it patronizing and annoying and yeah, alarmist, as @mrsSonthebeach said. I have the app, too, and I find that I rarely relate to what it’s saying. Today, for example, it’s giving me a list of what sweeteners are safe to use. At almost 31 weeks, isn’t it a bt late to be telling me this? lol. If I must sweeten, I’m a sugar or honey person, anyway.
Anyway, I digress. A book that I liked and read early on is “The Panic-Free Pregnancy.” It basically just dispels a bunch of myths (and validates any advice that’s legit), so if you’re in the mood for something like that, check it out. As with all pregnancy books, don’t take it as gospel — things become dated very quickly and you & your doctor know best.
GL with the pregnancy — here’s hoping you stay low on the symptom scale!
Post # 9
@birdie724: Too much info can be a bad thing. I’ve become more worried about getting pregnant/giving birth etc. since I’ve started to read about it. My mom had no issues, didn’t get fat, yadda yadda, but from what i’ve read, pregnancy sounds really frickin complicated and scary.
I think when I get pregnant for real I will try NOT to read stuff, download apps, etc. Women have been having babies for generations before the internet was invented and they did just fine.
Post # 10
Thanks ladies for all of your input! Makes me feel better! Appreciated! Here’s to a great 1st appointment with GREAT news that everything is going as “expected” on the 12th!