(Closed) Pregnancy Envy??

posted 8 years ago in TTC
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Definitely!! I’m ready to start trying, DH is not. His brother and wife are pregnant with their first, a mere 3 months after their wedding. DH and I have been married a year and a half and he’s still not even really thinking about TTC. I know it’s not a race, but I had a vision of giving my inlaws their first grandchild and that ain’t happening. The worst is that SIL hasn’t announced it on social media yet, but she’s nearing the end of her first trimester so I know she’ll break the news soon. And the thought of that literally gives me a pit in my stomach. I’m paranoid to check Facebook bc I don’t want to see her posts. A lot of my college and high school friends are pregnant now, too, and I’m just sitting here twiddling my thumbs. I’m trying to keep my baby fever in check, but it’s so hard. I asked DH for an estimated time frame and he just laughed. Ugh. I guess there’s nothing I can do but wait.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yep, wish I was.  With our tax return coming in, we’re finally over the savings “hump” we needed to be in order to be comfortable having a baby.  However, I have some medical issues acting up again that may require a type of treatment that’ll force postponing TTC for at least six months.  Sigh.  More time to save, I suppose.  

Things always work out for the best in the end though.  All of us baby crazy girls will get there some day, one way or another!

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Yup, definitely. And unfortunately I tend to deal with it by b!tching to Fiance…who dutifully nods, listens and tells me to be patient 🙂 But I also take a lot of comfort in knowing there are other ladies out there harbouring those same evil feelings, lol!

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

URGH. It does make me really sad when I see all my friends and what feels like EVERYONE (!) announcing their pregnancies, and here I am 32, with possible severe emdometriosis (I have “something” going on but the Dr’s won’t be sure unless they operate but I have no symptoms AT ALL), and I had a miscarriage nearly a year ago to the day. We’re on cycle 5 of our proper TTC, although we spent all of last year after the miscarriage NTNP… 

All being said, I am genuinely thrilled for my friends who are pregnant. But it is tinged with sadness. But I have faith that all of our times will come 🙂 <3

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015

YES!  Im sooo with you. I was supposed to start ttc feb 1st and I got a call from the doctor saying go to emerge ASAP! Stop trying right now. The doctors expect my condition to take 2+ years to correct (auto- immune disease). But Im so heart broken. I was ready. And now I have to wait because its too much of a risk. I guess its better to know then have an unhealthy babe. Wah. Seriously WAH!

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It’s been really really difficult lately. We are on month 7 of ttc and I swear every day someone else is announcing a pregnancy, no joke. I definitely know over a dozen people who are preggo right now, and pretty much all of them have gotten pregnant during the time which we have been trying, which makes me even more bitter. I, like PPs, keep thinking, “why them? Their lives are not together” or realizing that we have been married for a year or two longer, but I know that it’s not fair to think that way. It just make me feel better for half a second, then I get sad. I have been blocking fb posts of anyone who is preggo to try to keep from getting upset, but it only helps so much; everywhere I go I have friends who are preggo or just popped out a kid. I want to tell them that I’ve been trying but, obviously, can’t.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yep. I have such bad baby fever. I feel completely ready to have a baby at this point, but my DH wants to wait YEARS. His best friend is having a baby with his girlfriend and I’m so beyond jealous it’s unreal. I cried when he told me about it. I wish I could get over the feeling but I probably won’t!

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

My DH and I are thinking about TTC this month! I believe I will be ovulating anywhere from tomorrow-Tues! I am so scared to take this big leap but I envy all of my friends that have children, so I guess we will see what happens and it probably won’t happen on the first try anyways!

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes, just one baby. We are hoping to have just 1 – but my back is so bad, it will be a really hard journey – but we are ready to face it together. It’s sad that I have to deal with such significant back issues.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have 2 friends that are having babies.  Its not difficult to feel happy for them but something about it makes me feel like pregnancy is a far off dream for me. 

Most mornings I feel depressed yet by afternoon I feel optimistic about our situation because I know it will happen eventually.  I am on a roller coaster of emotions because I just went through a miscarriage one week ago.  We were able to get pregnant but it ended abruptly at 8.5 weeks.

Wait and see when my cycle will come back.  Wait and see how long it takes to get pregnant.  Wait and see if the pregnancy is viable.  Wait and see how stressed we will be with genetic test results.  The wait and see depresses me.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee

Me.

It’s not the right time for us (we’re not engaged or married, we don’t own a home) but I get very jealous of people I know who are pregnant or TTC, especially those who are financially irresponsible, with dead beat dads or are lazy mothers.

I deal with my jealousy by doing something I wouldn’t be able to if I was pregnant or had children – I eat soft cheese and drink wine; I stay up late having sex and then sleep in half the day; I make spontaneous plans etc.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I get so jealous and upset every time one of our friends gets pregnant. Fiance tells me I should be happy for them and I know I should but it’s so hard and I feel so bitter that we are not at the point where we can TTC. Having children is something I want so bad but sometimes it feels like it’s so far out of my reach it may never happen. Other people being pregnant just reminds me of how far behind I am. On top of that, I went on the pill straight after I had had an abortion 5 years ago (my asshole ex forced it) and so I don’t even know whether I have regular cycles or if I am fertile. Sorry for the rambling, it’s just that it really scares me.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Mischka:  I like how you deal with the jealousy; I also try to look at things that way, you know, doing things that I wouldn’t be able to do while pregnant or even with kids.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

We’re about to go into our 11th cycle trying. The first few months, it was, “I could be pregnant any moment!” 3 to 6 months, it was, “Hmm, considering we’re using OPKs and I apparently ovulate every month, this is taking longer than I thought.” 6 to 9 months was really hard and full of, “Why me?” and preliminary visits for testing. Cycle 10 onward is now, “I’m losing hope that I’m ever going to get pregnant.” Not rational — odds are I likely will, though maybe there is something more severe wrong with one or both of us — but it’s how I feel. 

I had to deal with my first close-ish pregnancy announcement the other day. An old high school friend that I see on and off-line has posted little ‘teasers’ about her pregnancy for the last month; she had something to share, but couldn’t share it yet; her stomach is hurting SOOOO bad; she’s excited for *something* 8 months away (…Hmm, +1 month before finding out about pregnancy..), and then finally, posted multiple pictures of her positive test, etc.

This girl has been dating this guy for 6 months and she’s extremely unstable. Every other day, she’s blissfully happy, then she wants to kill herself and her mom. She complains forevermore about her ex (father of her other kid) and posts all sorts of childish, juvenile crap about him. She lives with her mom, lives off of government assistance, doesn’t work, etc. Her boyfriend pushes carts at a grocery store for a living.

I had to avoid her Facebook profile (and her) for a day or two until I could recollect my composure. Then I went on her profile again, wrote a quick, “So happy for you, congrats, many wishes as your family grows,”or something cheesy like that. Then I was off the hook for acknowledging it any more.

I did sit there and think, “I have been trying for a baby longer than this girl’s known her boyfriend. Now she’s 2 months pregnant. I’m financially and emotionally stable, in a committed, long-term relationship.” 

But I was proud of myself. I’m SO glad it was a friend before it’s a relative. I heard that one of my SILs was planning to start trying again in December, so I imagine in a few months I’ll be fielding her announcement. On the plus side, she lives far away, so it will probably be by phone…so I can recollect myself more easily.

 

But…it’s hard. I think it’s always going to be hard. I don’t enjoy it, but I do the best I can.

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We’re only in our 2nd cycle trying, but I’ve had baby fever for about 2 years. 

I know 4 people in my close family/friends that are PG now, and 5 people who just had their babies in the past 6 months.

Two of the people who are currently PG tried for a while to get there, and I was genuinely happy for them.  Another one was unplanned, and the fourth one got it in her first try…those make me jealous! I’m happy for them, but still jealous all the same. LOL 

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