(Closed) Pregnancy help!

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Blushing bee

Could be gallstones? Could be ectopic? You know who could tell you? A doctor.

Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

If you have an ectopic pregnancy, it could be deadly to you if it ruptures. If that isn’t enough to get you to a dr… Darwin award?

Post # 18
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Helper bee

I have to agree with everyone else. The internet can’t diagnose you and it’s pretty irresonsible to refuse to see a doctor. It’s not just your life you’re risking anymore. At the absolute very least, you need to call your doctor or the ER and see what they tell you. (Which will most likely be come in immediately.)

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

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glitterpie :  

Bee. I’m sorry but there is a lot to unpack there.

I would look into any kind of assistance possible, in the US, you can get it because you are pregnant, the income requirements are different for pregnant women I think.

What is your plan? Just never go to the Dr?

I don’t mean to sound harsh but you have a baby coming. You need to take care of yourself and this pregnancy, and that means a lot of appointments and blood work. Your husband also sounds less than helpful.

Please look into assistance, you need prenatal care

Post # 22
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Helper bee

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glitterpie :  What kind of insurance do you have? (I don’t know what country you’re in) Are you not able to afford the copays or are you required to pay a certain amount before insurance kicks in (deductible)?

If you don’t miscarry then you’re going to have a lot of doctor’s appointments and hospital fees for birth. These aren’t really avoidable. Also possible doctor’s fees if there is a miscarriage and you need medical assistance during it. Do you guys have any kind of plan for the future? 

Also did they give you any sort of explanation for the pain?

Post # 23
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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glitterpie :  Well this update is very concerning. I understand that money is tight but…a baby is coming (or a possible MC which involves doctors and money as well). Was the plan to just never go to the doctor? You say you have insurance so that has to cover some of it, right? 

Pregnancy is expensive. Babies are expensive. I’m sorry if this is too intrusive but was this pregnancy planned? It sounds like your husband is still in college? How old are you? Do you have a job? 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

And why were you in so much pain? Is it because of a potential miscarriage? I’m really sorry for all this. It sounds very tough. 

Your husband needs to not put the blame on you though. It took two people to get pregnant and a pregnant woman can’t just wait and not see the doctor ever. 

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

When I miscarried I saw my GP, spent a night in the hospital, had blood work and had a check up by my obstetrician, it is still going to cost you.

if you do sustain this pregnancy are you just not going to see a doctor? What if you have complications? What if your child is sick when they are born? 

This is all terrifyingly irresponsible and your husband sounds like an asshole. Eptopic pregnancies can kill you. If he doesn’t want to spend money on doctors he shouldn’t have participated in making a baby. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE

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glitterpie :  I’m sorry but if you can’t afford this one hospital trip then how are you going to afford having a baby??? With dozens of hospital trips??? And potential complications??? I may sound like a cruel internet stranger, but maybe this is a sign you aren’t ready for a baby right now and you need to heed the universe’s clear warning. PLEASE do not breed with this asshole man who is shaming you for needing medical care when you are in severe pain, regardless of whether you are pregnant or not. 

My Future Sister-In-Law could have died a couple of weeks ago because she had a ruptured appendix. She was in severe pain and only went to the hospital because she wanted to make sure she wasn’t having an ectopic pregnancy (thankfully this was not the case!) or that something else serious wasn’t going on. They caught it just in time but she could have literally died. 

Post # 27
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Busy bee

They told you they couldn’t find your baby’s heartbeat and that you might miscarry, but all you seem to care about is the money.

This is unbelievable.

Grow up and get your baby the care it requires.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m sorry, but I wouldn’t be married to someone who was more concerned about money than my life or me being in severe pain. I know my comment isn’t really helpful, but I am just so disturbed by your husband’s attitude. 

Post # 29
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Helper bee

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glitterpie :  Any updates? Have you made an appointment? Has the pain stopped?

If you can give us some more info about your situation, we may be able to offer some advice. However, I agree your husband is being a grade-A asshole. You need to worry about you and your baby and not him.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Whatever your ridiculous reasons are, you need to forget them and go seek medical help. You are truly being ridiculous. No one here can help you. 

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