Post # 1
Hello! I’ve never been pregnant so I don’t know what to make of this. I have a cousin who was going to marry her boyfriend but they broke up and it was very bitter. This happened right after I got married and my sister also got married the year after. My sister is now expecting a baby and she had a baby shower. My cousin was not in attendance and it was a shock beause we grew up together. Fast forward, she announced on FB that she was pregnant (and apparently dating as well so we concluded). She said she was 3 weeks pregnant and I wonder, who finds out they’re pregnant at 3 weeks. Two days later, she’s at a night club drinking alcohol and posting pics on FB. Days later she says that she miscarried.
We grew up together and by that I mean next door neighbors. She’s always wanted whatever we have or what others have. When I got married, she told me she’d find someone and marry just like I did and that she’d throw the biggest wedding party ever, all of this at my wedding!!
I feel horrible for thinking this but would anyone do this and does anyone else find this strange?
Post # 3
At three weeks pregnant, hormone levels shouldn’t even be high enough for a test to detect. I call shenanigans.
That said, I’m not the least bit surprised that someone would do this. Some people will do anything for attention.
Post # 4
Hormones aren’t present enough to use an at home test kit, she would have had to visit a doctors office and been given a blood test. Blood tests can test for the hormone much more accurately and sooner. If she was drinking alcohol the day after, I can either assume that she didn’t care much for the pregnancy or was completely lying out of her ass. I agree with iheartnerds, some people will do anything for attention but how LOW of her to fake a pregnancy. *rolls eyes*
Post # 5
The trouble is, if she really was pregnant then to doubt it is the worst possible reaction. So all you really can do is treat it as face value and be sympathetic. I would rather err on the side of sympathy, especially since being sympathetic doesn’t cost anything.
Post # 6
Maybe she was confused as to what three weeks pregnant means? Like maybe she found out three weeks ago that she was pregnant? I don’t know, I’m just trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.
Post # 7
Many women don’t understand pregnancy gets dated from when you ovulate, so maybe she was three weeks late on her period, e.g 7 weeks? I would offer your sympathy, or ignore her.
Post # 8
She may not have known to count the 2 weeks, so she could have actually been what is known as 5 weeks pregnant. At that point, I can tell you I had symptoms, it’s what prompted me to test.
Don’t give her the stink eye. Everyone deals with things differently, and if she wanted to go out clubbing and have a drink to get her mind off a miscarriage, it doesn’t necessarily warrant someone accusing her of a “hoax.” Just tell her sorry for her loss (whether you mean it or not) and move on.
Post # 9
I found out I was 3 weeks pregnant using an at home kit.
I was actually less than 3 weeks because my doctors appointment was a few days later and I was BARELY 3 weeks then.. so it is possible.
Either way, that is very personal information to post on facebook. Sounds like she is an attention seeker.
Post # 10
I also found out I was pregnant at 3 weeks (3 weeks and 3 days if you want to get technical) because I tested positive at 7DPO with ovulation on CD17. Also, a couple of the digital tests these days give you a “weeks pregnant” range and it starts at 1-2 and then 2-3; my understanding is that they are referring to weeks following conception rather than actual pregnancy weeks. It’s possible your cousin took a digital, it said 2-3 weeks pregnant, and she thought it was 3 weeks when really it would have been 5 weeks pregnant. Either way, err on the side of sympathy.
Post # 11
@StuporDuck: Pretty much this, you can’t really accuse someone of faking a pregnancy… even if they did.
Post # 12
I would probably ask her what was up with the drinking pictures. “Hey I saw you and Mary went out for drinks on facebook. Had you already miscarried at that point?” Or “Hey I saw pictures of you at That Bar. Does the bartender make a good nonalcoholic drink?”
It’s possible she counted the weeks incorrectly. It’s possible those drinks were nonalcoholic. It’s possible that she’d already miscarried. It’s possible those pictures are old.
Unfortunately, to get to the bottom of it, you’d have to come close to accusing her.
Post # 13
I have no idea about your cousin. But I found out I was pregnant at just about 3 weeks, I think I was 7 or 8 dpo when I got my first lines and 9 when the digital confirmed it, so just over 3 weeks.