Pregnancy in 30s

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 46
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1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I had my first child at 29 (and turned 30 four months after I had him). I had my second at 31 (and turned 32 four months later). Things didn’t work out with my kids dad.

With my 1st it took a few months to get pregnant. After him I got a Paraguard IUD. It took about 4 months after I got it removed to concieve my 2nd. You really won’t know until you are ready to try. 

I am 35 now and getting married next month. I just talked to my OB and PCP about possibly wanting to TTC after the wedding and got the green light. They said there is no reason we shouldn’t TTC if we want to, my age is not a factor yet, and that they can’t see any reason not to. They recommended pre-natal vitamins, getting my IUD removed, and going for it. I am up-to-date on my pap too. That’s all they cared about. 

Stress when it’s really time to. Enjoy the process. Enjoy the relationship. You are far to young to worry about this yet. Worrying doesn’t do anything. Unless you can afford to freeze eggs, relax and enjoy the journey. Also talk to your OB/GYN about your concerns. They are a great resource for you! Mine sets me at ease all the time 🙂

Post # 47
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627 posts
Busy bee

Your age time frame seems normal to me. My sister was almost 35 on her wedding day, had my precious nephew at 36 and my other precious nephew at 38. I realize this is anecdotal evidence but it’s all I’ve got. Also, if you ask people how old their moms are and subtract their ages, you’ll see that most millennials were born to moms in their 30’s. This has been going on for quite a while. My grandmother carried my uncle at 34. No issues to speak of. Even Michelle Duggar didn’t start having issues until 44, the same age that Diane Hanson carried the 7th Hanson sibling who is like 19 now and perfectly fine. And that’s before you get into the super famous and rich 40-50 year old women who give birth. I’m rambling but I truly believe that all the scare tactics about female reproduction expiring are mostly patriarchal propaganda. Is there a time limit? Yes, that’s life. Men have a lesser discussed biological clock too (you think 29 year old sperm is as good as 74 year old sperm?? Lol no.) The reason why more 30 something women have miscarriages is because these days that’s when most women try to conceive. So if 6,000 women in their 30’s try to conceive, and 3,000 women in their 20’s do the same, it’s going to seem like more women in their 30’s are having trouble.  It seems like under 30 women get pregnant so easily they don’t have to try? That’s because they happened to not try, it just happened so it seemed easy. I’m not rushing in the least. I’m not in charge of that, someone else is. I believe it’ll happen for me if and when it’s supposed to. 

Post # 48
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2967 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i’m 32 (turning 33 this summer) and just had my first baby 4 weeks ago.

i had no problems getting pregnant. we were not trying/not preventing and it happened within 2 months. i had an easy pregnancy- no serious issues, no sickness…i went into labor 3 weeks early and had a long, but relatively easy delivery.

if it matters, this was my second pregnancy. my first ended in a miscarriage 3 years ago.

Post # 49
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511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

At 34 I got pregnant the first month we tried.  Unfortunately that ended in a mc.  Once I was ready to try again,  I got pregnant the first month trying again.  I am 35 years old and 20 weeks pregnant!  No issues…I am type 1 diabetic, so I am being carefully monitored, but so far so good!

Post # 50
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3114 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

krm1984 :  No I wasn’t on the pill, it was my first cycle off of it. I took the pill for over a decade with no worries! 

Post # 51
Hostess
11051 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

krm1984 : My maternal feelings started kicking in when I was in my late twenties. We got married when I was 30 and the following year maternal feelings got stronger. We started TTC when I was 33 and we conceived when I was 36. Yes, it was a long time coming but we didn’t try every month for those three years, I couldn’t have done, it would have been too emotionally draining, especially with the disappointment of not getting a positive. A few months before we conceived I was told I would need IVF, but it happened naturally and was so worth the wait. Good luck to you! 

Post # 52
Hostess
11051 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

krm1984 : My maternal feelings started kicking in when I was in my late twenties. We got married when I was 30 and the following year maternal feelings got stronger. We started TTC when I was 33 and we conceived when I was 36. Yes, it was a long time coming but we didn’t try every month for those three years, I couldn’t have done, it would have been too emotionally draining, especially with the disappointment of not getting a positive. A few months before we conceived I was told I would need IVF, but it happened naturally and was so worth the wait. Good luck to you! 

Post # 55
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4998 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

 Maybe this has already been said, but if you are not on hormonal birth control you can get some blood work done to have an idea of your fertility situation. You can just ask you OB to check your hormone levels, including FSH and AMH.  I started TTC when I was 27 and had all kinds of problems and a complicated pregnancy, none of which were related to age. You most likely won’t have any problems!

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