(Closed) Pregnancy & mother hood scare me–might not be for me

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Should I try to have a child soon or wait?
    yes, get started soon : (3 votes)
    12 %
    wait a year : (11 votes)
    42 %
    wait a few years : (6 votes)
    23 %
    sounds like you shouldn't have a child : (6 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    2515 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    i felt like that too up until about october of last year. then all of a sudden baby fever kicked in. i think if you don’t feel ready right now, it’s fine to wait. don’t let other people pressure you into it. you don’t want to rush into having a baby. 32 is still young. also, you don’t sound selfish. it’s not selfish to not want a baby or to admit that you don’t want one right now. 🙂 i’m 33 and this is our first cycle TTC.

    Post # 4
    1311 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @temporary:  I’m 32 (will be 33 this June)


    My Fiance had a vasectomy years ago and he is planning to reverse it.


    I am just like you… on the fence about having children. I could easily say to not have the reversal and us not having children (He has two from previous marriage) but i am scared that i will regret this decission.


    However when he gets the reversal done, our chances are 50% and less with every year that goes by. For some reason I feel that I would be ok with having a child, but also ok with not being able to have one due to low percentage.


    So I guess what I am trying to say, it’s not like you are sayign you don’t want any, you obviously want to try but don’t feel ready. Give yourself a year or two and then try. People still get pregnant in their mid 30’s and late 30’s.


    If you are ment to have them then you will.

    It’s a different thing when you make a decission like that and then mey regret it and a different thing when you just let it be and leave it to chance. 




    Post # 6
    2515 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @temporary:  i started seeing women around me pregnant and for whatever reason, i decided i was ready. i was totally in your mindset about liking my freedom and sleeping in and when baby fever hit, i realized that Darling Husband and i can still have fun after a kid. we plan on taking road trips with our kid and other fun stuff like that. the sleeplessness only lasts for so long. eventually, we’ll be able to sleep in again. i guess the reasons i had for waiting were no longer important to me.

    eta- it doesn’t mean i’m not scared though. i’m terrified of being pregnant and raising a child. it’s a huge responsibility so i think it’s normal to be scared about it.


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