Pregnancy scare

posted 4 months ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

msmeow13 :  i think it makes sense that you got used to the idea of possibly being pregnant and now that you aren’t, you are disappointed.

When I would get baby fever before the time was right, I found that looking a a calendar and planning things out would keep it at bay

Maybe come up with a timeline with your husband, it could help you feel better about waiting until the right time for you guys 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

Oh and I would maybe find a new dr if possible. That experience sounds awful, I’m surprised that she couldn’t be bothered to give you a pregnancy test 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I wouldn’t be surprised if the stress of the whole situation had an effect on your feelings. When you describe your situation, it seems as though you have a good head on your shoulders and know what’s best for you and your timeline. For someone who wants children eventually, I think it is normal to feel envious of friends who are ready right now. That’s just natural. On a different note, however, I would look into seeing a different doctor within that practice or research new practices altogether. That sounds like a terrible experience, and not one I would want to repeat annually. ☹️

Post # 5
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Helper bee

First of all, I am so sorry about your experience with the IUD and your current doctor. I, too, have crazy anxiety about mine (I’ve now had two) and the pain has been so, so bad. Having a helpful and understanding doctor is so important in that process (mine was kind of so-so, I wish she’d been a bit more sympathetic) and it sounds like you had very little support from her. I’d definitely start looking for another.

I can also relate to the random bout of baby fever. I’ve actually been dealing with some medical issues recently that may cause us to move up our TTC timeline (currently thinking three years from now, but it could now be upped to two years), which has just made me even more excited to start trying. Agreed with Sansa about creating a realistic timeline being the only thing quelling the baby fever symptoms.

How long had you had your IUD in for when it was discovered it had expelled into your cervix? For couples actively trying to get pregnant, it can take a good amount of time to actually conceive. As you hadn’t actively been trying and your IUD was still in (and, at least for some period of time, effective), I wouldn’t take it as an indication that you’d have trouble conceiving once you actually start trying! I know the words of an internet stranger may not bring about much comfort, but I’m wishing all the best for you and your husband! 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Lol this happened to me we got pregnant by “accident” (well we were doing the timing method and I randomly ovulated 9 days earlier than I normally do, after having very consistent cycles for 2 years). I ended up having a chemical pregnncy but my SO and I had talked so much about it over those days that when the pregnancy ended.. we decided to try again next month. Here I am 18 weeks along with a healthy baby boy. 

It certainly wasn’t the best time for us as we weren’t married yet and were planning a big move – but there’s never a perfect time. Obviously waiting until you’re done your nursing program would be more ideal. Maybe you can try to “plan” for that and you’ll feel better? Like have a set timeframe you want to get pregnant so you’re not in your own head about “what ifs”. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

msmeow13 :  Just came here to say I had a pretty similar experience lately, I have an IUD (the copper one) and I had had some spotting then my period had been 2 weeks late, so although I had tested and gotten a negative, I had an ultrasound scheduled to look at my IUD. I was so ready for them to say “wow you’re pregnant!” after the ultrasound appointment. In fact, my IUD had just shifted a little bit causing the spotting and then I’m sure delayed ovulation causing the late period. 

We’re not married, and not planning to get pregnant until 2020 or 2021, but the honest truth is I was kind of crushed that I wasn’t pregnant, even though I *knew* the odds were basically zero and I’d already had a negative pregnancy test. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I totally understand! I just went through a very difficult 9 months tapering off a medication in order to be safe to TTC and I’m finally off, but now I have work contracts signed through next May, so Darling Husband and I decided it was best to wait and start trying in Sept. We did end up having unprotected sex once RIGHT in my fertile window last month and once I got done being nervous that maybe we might get pregnant earlier than intended, I found myself DEEPLY hoping that we were, and feeling like “SCREW THE TIMING”. My period came and I was SO sad. Like teared up a little sad. There’s something that just changes when you think you might actually be pregnant. I didn’t realize how badly I wanted it until I wasn’t. Now I don’t know if I can handle waiting anymore!   

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I’m in a similar situation, we’re NTNP and I came off the pill almost 6 weeks ago. I have yet to take a period and of course there is a chance I could be pregnant, but I’m scared to take a test because im scared it’s negative!! It’s blown my mind because I wasn’t really thinking, Lets have kids now! We wanted to wait untill 2020. Your feelings are natural and normal. I’d talk to your husband about them and get his view too. Also change docs! 

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