Post # 1
My fiancée and I are getting married on a cruise in October of 2015. My parents paid for most of it and my grandparents bought my dress. About a year ago my fi and I decided to start trying for a baby and after 8 months of trying we conceived only to suffer a miscarriage. Because of this once we booked the wedding we talked about if we should stop trying again until after but decided not to seeing as how it took me a little while to conceive last time not to mention 6 months for the birth control to get out of my system. The other day I took a test and it was positive. The next day was the day we booked the wedding and yesterday we bought the dress. The guilt part comes in because I still haven’t told my family I was expecting. I just worry that had they known maybe they wouldn’t have wanted to shell out the money. I casually mentioned while dress shopping yesterday that we were still trying just to test the reaction and neither mom nor grandma looked all too pleased. After my miscarriage my mother had asked that next time we not tell her as soon but I think under these circumstances I should have. The baby will be born 5 months before the wedding so I don’t think it should be too bad of a reaction but I’m still so nervous to tell them
Post # 2
There is no point in wondering if it was the right thing or feeling guilty for your decisions. You are pregnant, so you will have to deal with that reality. I was three months pregnant at my wedding. I told people the following month and while I am sure I was being judged, hard, I didn’t care. I was thrilled to have a baby in my belly.
My advice is to wait at least three months before telling, and then tell them. They will think whatever they will think for a while, and they might even get mad. I have yet to meet a parental unit who didn’t come around to being thrilled about a new baby in the family.
My baby is now 9 months old, and I am learning to get a steely spine about my decisions regarding my baby. And this is speaking as someone who was fired shortly after I had my baby. You’ll get that spine too.
worst comes to worst, they’ll want a refund. If that is the case, offer to make paymentsback.
Post # 3
Is your baby going to be going on the cruise with you?
Post # 4
At first I thought the guilt was about dresses and not telling them you’d be pregnant at your wedding… But since the baby will be 5 months old, I wouldn’t worry about it! Especially since they knew of your first pregnancy, it shouldn’t be an absolute surprise and they shouldn’t be extremely mad or anything. Congratulations and enjoy your wedding AND baby planning!