Post # 1
Hi ladies, I was wondering if you could share how much weight you gained during pregnancy and how you managed your weight. I am 26 weeks and have gained around 24 lbs and I don’t know how to stop gaining. I eat how I did pre pregnancy and I drink way more water now that I am pregnant. My doctor makes me feel horrible every time I go see him. He has ordered me to see a dietition to help with my diet. Pre pregnancy I was 145 lbs and in good shape. I exercised regularly and ate frequently. I don’t workout much now that I am pregnant, I go for walks with my husband. I do drink juice and soda when I am home from work sometimes but I’ll only have one and it’s not every day. My doctor makes me feel so bad about my weight when everyone else who sees me says I look great and healthy pregnant. My doctor says the maximum I should gain is 30 lbs and anything more is a risk to my baby. I know so many people who have gained over 50 lbs and their doctors never gave them this kind of greif over it. I don’t have gestational diabetes or anything and both me and baby are healthy. I’m just really confused / frustrated 🙁 I have a friend who is a month ahead of me and has gained 32 lbs and she says her doctor says it’s fine :/
Post # 2
find a new doctor. Or at least tell him you want to stop monitoring your weight gain. My midwife has not weighed me since 8 weeks.
It doesnt’ sound like you’re going crazy so I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 3
your dr sounds like a dick. I’d personally get a new one. You should not feel that way at all! Our bodies are very complicated once you start gaining weight. At your starting point you weighed 145 and once you gain “fat” those fat cells can grow 10x their size and divide by 1000s-which is NORMAL with a baby in your stomach. I know a woman who gained 80lbs and her child was fine and so was she. In each cell is a chemical that says “STORE FAT!” and it can get into hyperdrive I’m assuming due to your pregnancy.
I would recommend my fitness pal and track your calories and macro nutrients (Carbs, Protein, Fats) so you don’t eat too much that will only be stored as fat, and micronutrients so your body can better break down fats. And get a new doctor! 🙂
Post # 4
I’d find a new doctor. I didn’t change the way I ate when I was pregnant and still gained 50 lbs. I also had a hard time losing weight until I weaned, despite everyone else saying breastfeeding melts off the pounds. Everyone is different. My doctor never said anything about my weight gain.
Post # 5
I’d get a new doctor. He sounds like an asshole. And the last thing I’d do is put my trust in an asshole. Especially my trust for my well being and my baby’s well being.
Pregnancy weight gain is so erratic, and goes through periods of gaining and stabilizing.
Keep walking, keep drinking. In your second trimester things go into overdrive getting that baby ready.
The problem with weight during pregnancy is that the scale doesn’t say, “this is from your diet, this is amniotic fluid, this is water retention, etc.” SO! Keep walking, make healthy, smart diet choices and let the rest go.
I lost all the baby weight without stressing about it, which tells me it was strictly pregnancy/baby weight and it wasn’t me eating poorly. My body did what it needed to do to nourish my little guy, and I trusted in that until I had a reason not to (never got one).
Relax, and get a new doctor. This should be a great experience for you.
Post # 6
Your doctor should never give you that hard of a time about your weight, especially because you haven’t gained that much and you and baby are both healthy.
Have you thought about getting a new doctor? Don’t be afraid to switch, just because it’s the middle of your pregnancy. I changed providers mid-pregnancy with my current pregnancy (I’m 36 week now) and am SO glad that I did. I just wasn’t connecting with my other doctor and wasn’t comfortable. This is a huge thing to go through, and not feeling comfortable with your doctor is not something you should suffer with in silence.
Post # 7
Some people have no tact. Please, get yourself a new doctor.
Post # 8
I ate normal during my pregnancy and gained a whopping 60 lbs. I lost all 60 pounds within 8 months of birthing my son. I was perfectly healthy all throughout my pregnancy, as was baby. I agree with the previous comments – ditch your doctor. He sounds awful!
Post # 9
Find a new doctor because while he should be monitoring you and giving you health advice, he doesn’t need to be a dick about it. You need to feel comfortable with your medical providers not like you are doing battle with them. However, just because other people gained 50+ pounds without their doctor saying anything (which I find hard to believe) doesn’t mean you should. How much weight each person should gain depends on whether they were under, at, or over a healthy weight to start with.
Post # 10
If you eat the same but workout less that’s probably why you’re gaining. Your doctor does sound like a dick but I would still meet with the dietician because it isn’t ideal to gain too much weight during pregnancy.
Post # 11
I had a regular OB and a MFM specialist, neither said anything about my weight gain. I’m not saying go out and eat taco bell for every meal, but some people just gain a lot while pregnant even with healthy eating habits. And it’s fine for the doctor to bring it up, but he shouldn’t be making her feel like crap every appointment.
I also lost like 30 lbs immediately after giving birth, so a lot of the weight was just fluid retention/placenta etc.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone for the advice! I think I am going to look for a new doctor. I know that he should be monitoring my weight but he has literally made me feel embarrassed about the weight that I have gained. I’m not a big person and I’ve never had a weight issue before in my life so it’s really hard to go once a month and listen to my doctor tell me how bad this weight gain is. I was even gaining weight when I had servere morning sickness and all day nausea and I didn’t know how or why since I was barely eating!
Post # 13
agreed – tact and bedside manner go a long way. OP, fluid retention is also a good point. My best friend just had her first and I’ve never seen someone swell up as badly as she did (she barely had knees let alone ankles – she said her skin hurt she was stretched so hard) and some people just bloat more which might be the cause of the extra weight gain.
eta: doctors also take your historical and starting weight into it too since I bet women prone to being overweight may struggle with pregnancy gain more. I had the sweetest midwife on the face of the planet and even she reminded me a few times that she didn’t think I should gain more than 15 pounds (I started at 150 at 5’5″). I gained 17 and she was very happy. My other best friend goes to the exact same midwife and she was totally cool with her gaining 35 pounds on her last pregnancy. Your doctor takes YOUR body and YOUR medical history into account when they make these recommendations.
Post # 14
I gained 75 pounds when pregnant (105 to 180). It was bad. My practice has multiple doctors and some were nicer than others. I lost 45+ lbs within 2-3 weeks of giving birth. I swear my body was just retaining water and being totally stubborn. I got back to about 120 which is my happy weight now (I was pretty skinny at the start and I just don’t feel like putting in the work to maintain that) by the time my son was 6 months old just by eating normally the same way I used to and how I ate during pregnancy. Bodies are totally stubborn.
Post # 15
I’m 24 weeks on Thursday and as of last appointment had gained 24 lbs. Im worried about it as I had gained 10 lbs before getting pregnant so started even higher weight than normal. I see different OB at each visit and only 2 have mentioned it but not in a dickish way. I’d get a new doctor if they made me feel too badly, and you should too. Besides more exercise and counting calories there isn’t much else you can do. Your body is doing what it needs to for baby!