(Closed) Pregnancy weight gain, not fair! (Pity Party)

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hey, you never know, if you worked out and ate healthy, a lot of that could be water!  All of mine was.

My advice to you: you know how you read to weigh yourself before you go to the hospital, and then weigh yourself when you come home for an instant self-esteem boost?

Don’t do that.

I did that, and when I came home, saw that I had delivered a 6 pound baby, placenta and all of that other stuff, and weighed four pounds more, my postpartum self cried for an hour. (Three)

All of the fluids they gave me during labor where there, so I gave it a couple of days, and THEN I woke up, the swelling was gone, and I was 25lbs lighter.  That was better!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@roxy821:  Was your friend sick during the pregnancy as well?

While I’m only 22 weeks, I have a net gain of -8 pounds still. Yes – negative 8 pounds. Why? I lost 18lbs from week 6 to about 16 before I even started gaining anything back. While I was considered a normal weight before (5’6, 150lbs), I was in the process of trying to lose some when we found out. I’ve been told there is a good possibility I’ll be back to my pre pregnancy weight after the baby is born. Sure, it seems really neat and some people wish they could have that, but often times people are even more worried that they haven’t gained the weight and that LO won’t be healthy.

It’s definitely interesting how our bodies each react differently. I’m really looking forward to seeing what happens in this last half of the pregnancy for me, as I do have plans to try and get back to the gym and get back to my normal life some.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@snoie:  I worried about this with my daughter.  I never gained any weight the entire time, and I knew it wasn’t because I was fortunate, it was because I wasn’t hungry.  

She was born small (6lbs, 3oz) and while my OB said, looking at my husband and myself that it made sense for us to have a small baby, I still think my eating had a lot to do with it.  She was however, amazingly healthy, a great eater, and her weight leveled out, so at 7 months, she’s perfectly average.

I won’t tell you not to worry, because I know you will, but just know, you can still have a very healthy baby!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I think your best bet is to not compare yourself to anyone else. We are all made differently. It’s normal to gain weight when pregnant. Just focus on the little baby you’re growing. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i am 31 weeks and i hate the weight gain too ! i have gained about 8 pounds, i wear maternity clothes. but i feel huge ! my SIL just had a baby (hes 3 weeks old) & she is down 4 pounds from her per pregnancy weight, so dont be worried about loosing it.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Every person is different and every pregnancy is different.

When my sister was pregnant with her first, she was 8 month along and you still couldn’t tell unless you knew her. It was because of the way she was carrying the baby.

But you know what? She may not have looked as big, but she said she was more uncomfortable with that pregnancy than her second kid when she showed more. the first pregnancy the baby was being carried in a really akward/uncomfortable position! So even those that don’t seem to show, it’s not all roses!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@roxy821:  I am glad you are posting this.  I have already gained a lot of weight- and whenever I search for “how much pregnancy gain” ladies seem to be like “OMG!  I gained 20 pounds!  (sometimes less!)  And it is just really not what I am looking for 🙂  I am only in my first trimester (8 weeks) and I have already gained a lot.  A lot. 

I have only been eating healthy foods and exercising regularly.  I honestly think it is good for the baby- the things I have been doing, but man, according to the scale I have packed it on.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@roxy821:  🙂  I know what you mean.  Well, some ladies just have a pregnant belly, and some ladies seem to be pregnant all over.  My aunt has always been thin and lovely and she got big all over, but she looks great now.  She went back to her normal self.  You take care of yourself so I am sure you will too!  I def. think that everyone’s body just does something different with the situation.  I have been so nauseous up until now, and I could NOT NOT eat or I would be throwing up.  So… I have had to do what I have had to do.  I would love to be one of those lucky gals that feels fine and can eat like they normally do.  Sigh.  As DH says, we are still one of the lucky ones, right? 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Everyone’s body is different, but I chose long ago not to care how much weight I gained or didn’t gain as long as the baby was healthy and the right size and I wasn’t putting him/her at risk. So what if I gain 40 lbs? Half of it is the baby, placenta, extra blood volume, the uterus, amniotic fluid, etc. and will be dropped without me having to think about it. I can lose the rest by breastfeeding and going back to my normal diet.

I set out with that mentality and I’m not gaining enough weight to keep up with the weight gain schedules, but I am eating my face off and the baby is healthy, so I just keep reminding myself not to beat myself up about that fact that I’ve only gained 12 lbs (at 27w3d).

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

6lbs isn’t a very healthy weight gain! I know one gal who was so  sick during her whole pregnancy that she only gained 4lbs, but that was very dangerous for her baby, even though it ended up being fine. 

I’m short(5′) and petite and they still recommend I gain around 25lbs. Everyone’s body is so different, it’s best to not try and compare yourself to them. 🙂 As long as your baby is healthy, any weight gain is well worth it. If you have been working out and such, I don’t think you will have an issue bouncing back. 🙂 Appreciate your body for the wonders it is doing! 🙂

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would be much more worried if I were “model skinny” and only gained 6 pounds (?!) than if I gained 40 pounds. How is it even possible to only gain 6 pounds, and yet give birth to an 8 pound baby? When you add up all the extra fluid, the extra blood, the placenta, and the weight of the baby, that right there is like 25 pounds, minimum. So did your friend go completely anorexic and LOSE 20 pounds of fat and muscle while pregnant, for her net gain of 6 pounds? It honestly sounds really bad. Don’t compare yourself negatively to anyone. You sound right on target. I am only 6 weeks pregnant and I’ve probably already gained 6 pounds, lol!

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