- 5 years ago
I’m 24w and wondering what’s in store for me the rest of this pregnancy and postpartum time…So for anyone whose had a baby before and/or is at the end of their pregnancy:
Did you get a linea niagra? If so, how many weeks were you?
Did you get stretch marks? If so, how many weeks were you and how much weight had you gained?
Did you ever have braxton hicks? Starting when?
Did you get swelling? Did you ever have to take off your rings? When?
How much weight had you gained at 20 weeks? At the start of the third trimester (28 weeks)? Total to date/at the end?
And if you’ve given birth already:
How long did it take you to lose your pregnancy weight? Did you do anything special?
How long did it take you to feel back to yourself physically and emotionally after delivery?
Did you tear during delivery?
Did you have an epidural?
Did you go into labor before, on, or after your due date? Were you induced?
How often did baby eat the first week or two?
Were you comfortable breastfeeding in front of visitors (with a coverup) right away?
Did you let people visit you at the hospital after the baby was born? If so, do you regret it?
Did you limit visitors when you got home? If so, how did you do this courteously? If not, do you wish you had?
Did you have any respectful requests of visitors (e.g. no overnight stays, please no visits after 7pm, give baby back if he/she cries, etc)? If so, how did you convey these without sounding like a nazi?
Did visitors wait to be offered to hold the baby or did some people just pick him/her up or say, “aww let me have her”? If so, did it freak you out when they did that? What did you do?
In the first few weeks were you okay with close friends or family trying to soothe the baby when he/she was crying or did you want him/her back? If you wanted him/her back did people usually give him/her back pretty quickly or did you have to make an assertive move to get him/her? How did you do this nicely?
If someone had been visiting for a while and you were really ready for them to leave, what did you do?
Any advice in general on handling post-partum visitors? Particularly parents and inlaws?