(Closed) Pregnancy/Postpartum Symptom Survey

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Did you get a linea niagra? If so, how many weeks were you?

No

Did you get stretch marks? If so, how many weeks were you and how much weight had you gained?

The first time not til the very end, I got like 2, I had gained about 25lbs. Then I got pregnant again right away and got more stretch marks early on, probably 10, I’ve gained about 20lbs this time and had lost all the weight between the two.

Did you ever have braxton hicks? Starting when?

Yes with my first they started early, around 32 weeks or so and continued through the end, I delivered at 37w5d. This time I’m 35w5d and not really having them.

Did you get swelling? Did you ever have to take off your rings? When?

Not really, my ankles and feet have swelled slightly with both but it goes away. I never took my rings off with my first and still haven’t. I did take them off before going to the hospital just for safe keeping at home.

How much weight had you gained at 20 weeks? At the start of the third trimester (28 weeks)? Total to date/at the end?

Barely any at all the first time, this time maybe 10lbs?

 

And if you’ve given birth already:

How long did it take you to lose your pregnancy weight? Did you do anything special? It only took about 6weeks and I did not do anything special.

How long did it take you to feel back to yourself physically and emotionally after delivery? Well, I got pregnant 2 months post partum so I kind of never got back to normal!!

Did you tear during delivery? I had an episiotomy

Did you have an epidural? Yes

Did you go into labor before, on, or after your due date? Were you induced? Before, my water broke at 37w4d I was in labor for 23 hours and delivered at 37w5d

How often did baby eat the first week or two? Every 2-3 hours

Were you comfortable breastfeeding in front of visitors (with a coverup) right away? Yup, I have no shame and am not shy

Did you let people visit you at the hospital after the baby was born? If so, do you regret it? Yes and somewhat. I really needed to be resting. This time I’d like to restrict it to immediate family only, our parents and siblings. 

Did you limit visitors when you got home? If so, how did you do this courteously? If not, do you wish you had? No but people were respectful, we didn’t get bombarded. I have no problem saying no though.

Did you have any respectful requests of visitors (e.g. no overnight stays, please no visits after 7pm, give baby back if he/she cries, etc)? If so, how did you convey these without sounding like a nazi? I didn’t really have to, and people are usually pretty ready to hand a baby back if it’s crying.

Did visitors wait to be offered to hold the baby or did some people just pick him/her up or say, “aww let me have her”? If so, did it freak you out when they did that? What did you do? Close family are more aggressive about holding the babies but most people ask first and we asked everyone to wash or sanitize their hands.

In the first few weeks were you okay with close friends or family trying to soothe the baby when he/she was crying or did you want him/her back? If you wanted him/her back did people usually give him/her back pretty quickly or did you have to make an assertive move to get him/her? How did you do this nicely? I would usually take the baby away, I don’t want people to be bothered with my crying baby. I’d just say “Oh poor baby, come see mama” and people never heistated to hand him over.

If someone had been visiting for a while and you were really ready for them to leave, what did you do? I would say that I needed to rest, I’m lucky that people were pretty good about taking hints and not staying too long.

Any advice in general on handling post-partum visitors? Particularly parents and inlaws? Be clear and firm about how you want things to go, don’t let people tell you how long they want to be around, that is your decision. You have to be in charge. This is your baby and your recovery and you need your rest and quiet time!

 

Post # 17
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Busy bee

lalanono:  I’m almost 31 weeks, but wanted to answer what I could:

 

Did you get a linea niagra? If so, how many weeks were you? Yes; started around 9-10 weeks

Did you get stretch marks? If so, how many weeks were you and how much weight had you gained? None yet, and I hope it stays that way!

Did you ever have braxton hicks? Starting when? Yes, starting right around 20 weeks, and have remained consistent.

Did you get swelling? Did you ever have to take off your rings? When? No swelling yet. I also flew across country at 29 weeks, and no swelling after either.

How much weight had you gained at 20 weeks? At the start of the third trimester (28 weeks)? Total to date/at the end? Well, I lost 15 lbs in my first trimester (went from 126 to 114). By 20 weeks I was 124, so still 2 pounds below my prepregnancy weight. Currently 31 weeks, and now up 5 lbs above my prepregncy weight.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Did you get a linea niagra? If so, how many weeks were you?

No

Did you get stretch marks? If so, how many weeks were you and how much weight had you gained? 

Yes I did get them around my belly button towards the end. I thought I was in the clear but they popped up in the 3rd trimester. I gained 41 pounds total up until induction at 38 weeks. I don’t remember how much I had gained when the stretch marks showed up

Did you ever have braxton hicks? Starting when?

Yes…not sure exactly but maybe around week 35

Did you get swelling? Did you ever have to take off your rings? When?

Ohhh yea swelling in my feet and hands. I did have to take off my rings probably around week 32 

How much weight had you gained at 20 weeks? At the start of the third trimester (28 weeks)? Total to date/at the end?

 Sorry don’t remember at 20 weeks but 41 total

And if you’ve given birth already:

How long did it take you to lose your pregnancy weight? Did you do anything special?

I have lost 22 pounds without trying and I am 4 weeks pp now. I plan to actually try to lose more when I get a better daily schedule going

How long did it take you to feel back to yourself physically and emotionally after delivery?

Physically, 2 weeks. Emotionally I am not quite there yet. It is an intense experience with lots of hormone changes and I still find myself very emotional

Did you tear during delivery? 

2nd degree tear but I have to say the pushing stage was the best part of the whole thing. I had no pain and it lasted no more than 15 min

Did you have an epidural? 

Yes, bless the person who invented them. And I was super against it going in but I needed it and don’t feel bad about it. Loved it!!

Did you go into labor before, on, or after your due date? Were you induced?

Induced at 38 weeks

How often did baby eat the first week or two?

Baby breastfeeds constantly! He was in nicu and we had to follow a schedule there the first week of every 3 hours but when I was able to feed on demand I was surprised about how often he nursed. Every 1-3 hours

Were you comfortable breastfeeding in front of visitors (with a coverup) right away?

I’m not comfortable with it. I don’t even want to use a coverup in front of visitors. I don’t mind in front of my mom but I like to latch privately and then I’m fine with her being around while he is eating. Thinking about other people being around when he needs to eat gives me anxiety

Did you let people visit you at the hospital after the baby was born? If so, do you regret it?

I wish I had.less visitors. My parents came and so did my best friend, 2 cousins, aunt and uncle. I found it very overwhelming. 

Did you limit visitors when you got home? If so, how did you do this courteously? If not, do you wish you had?

Definitely and I still am limiting. I needed time to adjust and to rest. I just explained that to people.

Did you have any respectful requests of visitors (e.g. no overnight stays, please no visits after 7pm, give baby back if he/she cries, etc)? If so, how did you convey these without sounding like a nazi?

None of those issues really came up. He hasn’t cried for anyone yet but if he does in future I would ask for him back if they didn’t offer

Did visitors wait to be offered to hold the baby or did some people just pick him/her up or say, “aww let me have her”? If so, did it freak you out when they did that? What did you do?

Everyone has waited

In the first few weeks were you okay with close friends or family trying to soothe the baby when he/she was crying or did you want him/her back? If you wanted him/her back did people usually give him/her back pretty quickly or did you have to make an assertive move to get him/her? How did you do this nicely?

Somehow baby hasn’t cried when being held by anyone yet

If someone had been visiting for a while and you were really ready for them to leave, what did you do? 

Say that he needs to eat

Any advice in general on handling post-partum visitors? Particularly parents and inlaws? 

Be clear with your boundaries



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Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m on my phone so I apologize if this doesn’t come out right! 

 

 

How much weight had you gained at 20 weeks? At the start of the third trimester (28 weeks)? Total to date/at the end? At 20 weeks I was up 20 pounds, then before I delivered I was up 45 pounds. 

And if you’ve given birth already:

How long did it take you to lose your pregnancy weight? Did you do anything special? I lost 30 pounds in 1 week! I’m still up 15 pounds but once I’m able to exercise it will come off easily. Since I had polyhydramnios (excess amniotic fluid) I think that’s where a lot of my weight gain was, and why I lost so much so fast. 

How long did it take you to feel back to yourself physically and emotionally after delivery? I’m 16 days PP and still don’t feel like myself emotionally or physically. I still cry at least once a day and if I’m up and doing a lot my butt gets sore still. 

Did you get a linea niagra? If so, how many weeks were you? Yes super early around 12 weeks because we were at the beach and the sun made it come out.

Did you get stretch marks? If so, how many weeks were you and how much weight had you gained? Yes but not until the end, then I got more after I delivered! 

Did you ever have braxton hicks? Starting when? Yes, they started super early at 20 weeks.

Did you get swelling? Did you ever have to take off your rings? When? Yes at the end. I took my rings off at 37 weeks. 

 

Did you tear during delivery? Yes. The nurse said I tore internally but I didn’t ask any more questions because it freaked me out. 

Did you have an epidural? Yes, it was AMAZING. I could still move my legs but felt no pain. 

Did you go into labor before, on, or after your due date? Were you induced? I was admitted to be induced on November 30th due to polyhydramnios, but ended up going into labor naturally a few hours later! It was pretty crazy.  

How often did baby eat the first week or two? He eats every 3 hours. 

Were you comfortable breastfeeding in front of visitors (with a coverup) right away? I only breastfed in front of the nurses and my Darling Husband. 

Did you let people visit you at the hospital after the baby was born? If so, do you regret it? Well we didn’t plan on having anyone except our parents there. But the day after I delivered so many people just showed up. I didn’t really mind, I just wish I felt better physically because it was hard for me to move because my butt hurt so damn bad.

Did you limit visitors when you got home? If so, how did you do this courteously? If not, do you wish you had? I didn’t let anyone come over for the first 3 or 4 days. We were having a terrible time breastfeeding, Darling Husband was stressed out because he felt like he couldn’t help with anything, and I was super emotional and SORE! So whenever someone texted us we just said its not a good time yet. 

Did you have any respectful requests of visitors (e.g. no overnight stays, please no visits after 7pm, give baby back if he/she cries, etc)? If so, how did you convey these without sounding like a nazi? My Darling Husband actually put a note on the door that said not to knock because it will wake the baby. 

Did visitors wait to be offered to hold the baby or did some people just pick him/her up or say, “aww let me have her”? If so, did it freak you out when they did that? What did you do? They ask first. If they don’t ask, I don’t offer because honestly I don’t like other people holding him (besides Darling Husband, my mom & MIL) 

In the first few weeks were you okay with close friends or family trying to soothe the baby when he/she was crying or did you want him/her back? If you wanted him/her back did people usually give him/her back pretty quickly or did you have to make an assertive move to get him/her? How did you do this nicely? I’m okay with my mom and Mother-In-Law trying to soothe the baby. If they are holding him and he gets fussy, they automatically try comforting him. It doesn’t bother me. 

If someone had been visiting for a while and you were really ready for them to leave, what did you do? This happened once when he was around 1 week old. Two of our friends brought us over takeout for dinner and we ended up in the living room talking for a few hours. It was after 10pm and I was exhausted so I kept saying “I’m so tired!” Until they finally took the hint and left.

Any advice in general on handling post-partum visitors? Particularly parents and inlaws? Be honest and open about how you are feeling. If you’re too tired to have anyone over, tell them! 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Did you get a linea niagra? If so, how many weeks were you? Not yet — I’ll be 36 weeks on Saturday

Did you get stretch marks? If so, how many weeks were you and how much weight had you gained? No new ones, all the ones I have were existing from my cubbier days lol 

Did you ever have braxton hicks? Starting when? None yet 

Did you get swelling? Did you ever have to take off your rings? When? I took my rings off early, not because they were too tight but I felt “restricted”. I wore both rings til about 4 months and then just wore my e-ring til about 6 months

How much weight had you gained at 20 weeks? At the start of the third trimester (28 weeks)?Total to date/at the end? Ohh honestly I don’t remember, I’ve been intentionally trying not to take note of my weight gain (my Doctor is tracking it though) I don’t want to worry about the weight until after I have baby, I’ll torture myself if I know how much I’ve gone up in weight lol.. But my Doctor hasn’t been concerned and said I’ll probably be up 35-40 lbs from my starting weight by the end of the pregnancy 

 

 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Did you get a linea niagra? If so, how many weeks were you?

I have a half linea nigra – up to belly button – started in mid twenties week wise

 

Did you get stretch marks? If so, how many weeks were you and how much weight had you gained?

no stretch marks yet at 34 weeks, gained 32 lbs so far.

 

 

Did you ever have braxton hicks? Starting when?

all the time. started late 20’s week wise and have persistently worsened after week 30

 

Did you get swelling? Did you ever have to take off your rings? When?

not yet.

 

How much weight had you gained at 20 weeks? At the start of the third trimester (28 weeks)? Total to date/at the end?

i have consistently gained this entire pregnancy, usually whatever week i am is how much weight ive gained. currently 34 weeks and up 32 lbs.

 

Post # 23
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413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Did you get a linea niagra? If so, how many weeks were you? Yes, I was maybe 30-ish weeks? 

Did you get stretch marks? If so, how many weeks were you and how much weight had you gained? I only have a couple little ones on my hips and lower tummy. I didn’t see any stretch marks until after I gave birth. I gained 38 pounds.

Did you ever have braxton hicks? Starting when? Yes, somewhere around 28-ish weeks maybe?

Did you get swelling? Did you ever have to take off your rings? When? Nothing major. I wasn’t engaged at that point but the rings that I did wear regularly never got too small.

How much weight had you gained at 20 weeks? At the start of the third trimester (28 weeks)? Total to date/at the end? About 12 at 20 weeks, 22 by 28 weeks, and 38 total.

 

And if you’ve given birth already:

How long did it take you to lose your pregnancy weight? Did you do anything special? I was back to my pre-pregnancy jeans around 2 months pp. I think I was about 5 pounds heavier than my pre-pregnancy weight (I’ve since gained 20-ish pounds. Sadface). Breastfeeding helped, but other than that I didn’t do anything special.

How long did it take you to feel back to yourself physically and emotionally after delivery? I don’t even know. I struggle(d) with post-partum depression. I’m still not sure I feel “normal” most days. Physically, I was alright after 5-6 weeks.

Did you tear during delivery? Yes

Did you have an epidural? Yes

Did you go into labor before, on, or after your due date? Were you induced? I went into labour at 38w 5d.

How often did baby eat the first week or two? Uh, constantly, lol. At least that’s what it felt like. At least every couple of hours.

Were you comfortable breastfeeding in front of visitors (with a coverup) right away? Yeah man, they’re just boobs. Anyone who was weirded out was free to leave. I never covered up in the hospital or at home.

Did you let people visit you at the hospital after the baby was born? If so, do you regret it? Yes, and I wouldn’t say I regret it. I was exhausted, gross, and kind of crabby at times, but it was nice to see some friendly faces. Only a handful of immediate family and a couple of our best friends visited.

Did you limit visitors when you got home? If so, how did you do this courteously? If not, do you wish you had? Not really? People would call to ask if they could come see her. Most of the time we said yes; if it was an inconvenient time, we’d just tell them so and suggest an alternate time/date. Nobody got offended.

Did you have any respectful requests of visitors (e.g. no overnight stays, please no visits after 7pm, give baby back if he/she cries, etc)? If so, how did you convey these without sounding like a nazi? The only request I really had was that people washed their hands before holding her. I mentioned it to people when they walked in the door, and we kept some nice-smelling soap by the kitchen sink for them to use. We also kept a few bottles of hand sanitizer around the house for people to use. Nobody ever complained about it.

Did visitors wait to be offered to hold the baby or did some people just pick him/her up or say, “aww let me have her”? If so, did it freak you out when they did that? What did you do? Most people waited until I gave her to them. The rest were pretty respectful and asked if they could hold her. I don’t think anybody ever tried to “take” her.

In the first few weeks were you okay with close friends or family trying to soothe the baby when he/she was crying or did you want him/her back? If you wanted him/her back did people usually give him/her back pretty quickly or did you have to make an assertive move to get him/her? How did you do this nicely? I wasn’t one of those moms who insisted that the baby come back to me NOW if she started crying. Most people gave her back right away without being asked. But if they wanted to try to calm her down, I let them. If it worked, great; if it didn’t, they usually gave her back pretty quickly (I think the most I ever had to say was “here, let me try.”)

If someone had been visiting for a while and you were really ready for them to leave, what did you do? Yawn, mention how much laundry I had to do, or say something about how it was almost time for her to go down. Honestly, most of our guests were pretty considerate and didn’t stay too long.

Any advice in general on handling post-partum visitors? Particularly parents and inlaws? Set up reasonable boundaries and stick to them, but try not to get too stressed out over visitors. It goes by quickly. If you’re really too tired to deal with visitors, say so. They’re your family; you can be honest with them. They’re just excited about the new baby, and might need a gentle reminder that you need some time alone with your little one.

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