- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
Did you get a linea niagra? If so, how many weeks were you?
Did you get stretch marks? If so, how many weeks were you and how much weight had you gained?
The first time not til the very end, I got like 2, I had gained about 25lbs. Then I got pregnant again right away and got more stretch marks early on, probably 10, I’ve gained about 20lbs this time and had lost all the weight between the two.
Did you ever have braxton hicks? Starting when?
Yes with my first they started early, around 32 weeks or so and continued through the end, I delivered at 37w5d. This time I’m 35w5d and not really having them.
Did you get swelling? Did you ever have to take off your rings? When?
Not really, my ankles and feet have swelled slightly with both but it goes away. I never took my rings off with my first and still haven’t. I did take them off before going to the hospital just for safe keeping at home.
How much weight had you gained at 20 weeks? At the start of the third trimester (28 weeks)? Total to date/at the end?
Barely any at all the first time, this time maybe 10lbs?
And if you’ve given birth already:
How long did it take you to lose your pregnancy weight? Did you do anything special? It only took about 6weeks and I did not do anything special.
How long did it take you to feel back to yourself physically and emotionally after delivery? Well, I got pregnant 2 months post partum so I kind of never got back to normal!!
Did you tear during delivery? I had an episiotomy
Did you have an epidural? Yes
Did you go into labor before, on, or after your due date? Were you induced? Before, my water broke at 37w4d I was in labor for 23 hours and delivered at 37w5d
How often did baby eat the first week or two? Every 2-3 hours
Were you comfortable breastfeeding in front of visitors (with a coverup) right away? Yup, I have no shame and am not shy
Did you let people visit you at the hospital after the baby was born? If so, do you regret it? Yes and somewhat. I really needed to be resting. This time I’d like to restrict it to immediate family only, our parents and siblings.
Did you limit visitors when you got home? If so, how did you do this courteously? If not, do you wish you had? No but people were respectful, we didn’t get bombarded. I have no problem saying no though.
Did you have any respectful requests of visitors (e.g. no overnight stays, please no visits after 7pm, give baby back if he/she cries, etc)? If so, how did you convey these without sounding like a nazi? I didn’t really have to, and people are usually pretty ready to hand a baby back if it’s crying.
Did visitors wait to be offered to hold the baby or did some people just pick him/her up or say, “aww let me have her”? If so, did it freak you out when they did that? What did you do? Close family are more aggressive about holding the babies but most people ask first and we asked everyone to wash or sanitize their hands.
In the first few weeks were you okay with close friends or family trying to soothe the baby when he/she was crying or did you want him/her back? If you wanted him/her back did people usually give him/her back pretty quickly or did you have to make an assertive move to get him/her? How did you do this nicely? I would usually take the baby away, I don’t want people to be bothered with my crying baby. I’d just say “Oh poor baby, come see mama” and people never heistated to hand him over.
If someone had been visiting for a while and you were really ready for them to leave, what did you do? I would say that I needed to rest, I’m lucky that people were pretty good about taking hints and not staying too long.
Any advice in general on handling post-partum visitors? Particularly parents and inlaws? Be clear and firm about how you want things to go, don’t let people tell you how long they want to be around, that is your decision. You have to be in charge. This is your baby and your recovery and you need your rest and quiet time!